Monthly Archives: February 2006

John Cali

Strange sounding title, isn’t it? Most of you probably agree you create your future now, by the choices you make in this present moment. But how can you create your past now?

My mother and her sister, only about a year and a half apart in age, grew to adulthood in the same house with the same parents and siblings. (All are dead now.)

My mother’s memories of her childhood were warm and happy. My aunt’s were not.

My mother adored her parents and saw them as kind, caring, and loving.… Read more

John Cali

Strange sounding title, isn’t it? Most of you probably agree you create your future now, by the choices you make in this present moment. But how can you create your past now?

My mother and her sister, only about a year and a half apart in age, grew to adulthood in the same house with the same parents and siblings. (All are dead now.)

My mother’s memories of her childhood were warm and happy. My aunt’s were not.

My mother adored her parents and saw them as kind, caring, and loving.… Read more

John Cali

Since today is Valentine’s Day, I thought we’d talk about relationships. Fascinating and often baffling subject, isn’t it?

Recently, several of my close, years-long personal relationships have faded and gotten lost in the mists of time. There were no big fights. Nobody got mad at anybody. There was just a quiet drifting in different directions.

None of these were romantic relationships. But Valentine’s Day is not just about lovers — it’s about us all in relationships of love with each other.… Read more

John Cali

Since today is Valentine’s Day, I thought we’d talk about relationships. Fascinating and often baffling subject, isn’t it?

Recently, several of my close, years-long personal relationships have faded and gotten lost in the mists of time. There were no big fights. Nobody got mad at anybody. There was just a quiet drifting in different directions.

None of these were romantic relationships. But Valentine’s Day is not just about lovers — it’s about us all in relationships of love with each other.… Read more

John Cali

The other day while I was grocery shopping, I spied an item I’d never seen in the store. It was one of my favorite Italian cheeses. So I bought a piece.

When I got home, I read the small print on the label. It said:

Firm smooth body . . . will sharpen with age.

What a great metaphor, I thought, for the way some humans age, and probably the way most of us would like to.

As I get older, I’ve found my memory and my body are in better shape than when I was younger.… Read more

John Cali

The other day while I was grocery shopping, I spied an item I’d never seen in the store. It was one of my favorite Italian cheeses. So I bought a piece.

When I got home, I read the small print on the label. It said:

Firm smooth body . . . will sharpen with age.

What a great metaphor, I thought, for the way some humans age, and probably the way most of us would like to.

As I get older, I’ve found my memory and my body are in better shape than when I was younger.… Read more