Are You Stuck and Struggling? by John Cali

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John Cali

Many folks have commented to Spirit and me over the years they feel stuck in their lives. They’re in a place they don’t want to be. They’re in a rut, and they can’t get out of it. Their lives are a constant struggle. And all they know is being stuck and being in struggle. Or so it seems.

Here’s a typical comment:

“This stuck place is where I am right now. This is reality, and I must deal with reality, must I not? This is the reality I’m stuck in. And I’m struggling like hell.”

Spirit says it’s impossible to be stuck. You’re always growing and changing and evolving. Whether you’re in physical or nonphysical form, you are never stuck. Though in the physical you may well be struggling. But when you realize you really aren’t stuck, the struggle magically vanishes.

So why does it feel like you’re stuck?

Here’s Spirit.


You are always changing, growing. You cannot avoid it–it’s part of who you are. We in these realms of spirit are also eternally changing and growing. You, on the earth plane, have no monopoly on that! It’s also part of who we are.

That’s just the way it works. You cannot stand still. You will never be finished. You will never arrive at a “final resting place.”

Life, physical or nonphysical, is all about the journey, not the destination. For there really is no destination. Your journey is your destination. And your journey is never-ending. It’s eternal.

And so why do so many on the earth plane feel stuck in their lives? Why are they struggling so mightily? And if they are forever changing, how can they be stuck to begin with?

What’s really happening here is when you are feeling stuck, you are simply creating more of your status quo–more of what already is, more of “reality.” You change and grow every day. But if you’re focusing mostly on what you don’t want–for instance, on the status quo–then you simply change to more of what you don’t want.

But you are changing. You must change. You cannot stand still.

And so when you are feeling stuck, when you are struggling with your “stuckness,” you’re really not stuck. You’re moving. It’s just that you’re simply creating more of what you’re stuck in, more of what you don’t want.

And you create it again and again and again. That’s what’s happening when you’re feeling stuck.

But you can create something different by slightly shifting your focus. Forget about facing reality unless your current reality is what you want more of.

Instead focus on what you want to have in your life. Do this in little bitty steps if that’s more comfortable for you.

Look for what’s working in your life. Look at what feels good. Look at the abundance you already have. Find things to appreciate–people, places, anything or anyone in your life you are grateful for.

Or, as a couple of your clichés put it, “Count your blessings. Smell the roses.”

Roses and blessings abound. All you have to do is look for them–and then there they are. Do that each day upon awakening in the morning, even before you get your body out of bed. Soon you will be inundated with roses and blessings.

We guarantee it.

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