For Sale By Owner: Are You Getting What You Want Out of Life? by John Cali

John Cali

I realize that’s a screwy-sounding title. Let me explain.

The other day I was out walking home from jogging in my semi-rural neighborhood. I passed a house with a “For Sale By Owner” sign planted in the front yard next to the road. The only problem was the owners had parked their truck directly in front of the sign.

No one driving by would have been able to see the sign. The only reason I saw it was because I was walking. Yet almost no one walks in this semi-rural area.

That truck was a perfect symbol for what so many of us do when we ask for something to manifest in our lives. We put out the sign (ask). Then we block the sign with our truck (our negative thoughts).

We’ve covered this subject in one form or another many times over the years. Yet it keeps coming up in personal readings with Spirit, and in our correspondence with many folks. And almost daily I see people around me challenged and baffled by this issue.

Here’s Spirit.


You live in a Universe of vast abundance and well-being. Everything you could possibly imagine is literally at your fingertips. It is as easy to manifest a million dollars as it is to manifest a penny.

Your birthright, as children of the Universe, as the powerful creators you all are, is abundance, well-being, joy, all the good things you could ever possibly imagine in your life.

Now let us ask you a question: Do you believe, in your heart of hearts, what we’ve just said?

Or do you perhaps want to say something like this: “Well, Spirit, that all sounds fine. And I can see it happens some of the time for some of the people, and even for me on rare occasions. But I don’t see all that as a common experience, at least not in my life.”

Or something like that — is that the way your inner dialogue might go when we say you can have it all — all your dreams?

There you have obstacle number one: your belief in scarcity is stronger than your belief in abundance.

And now let’s discuss obstacle number two.

You ask the Universe — the Great Spirit, God, Goddess — whatever name you prefer for Source Energy. You ask for something specific. Let’s use a common example. You want to manifest your perfect lover.

So you sit down and think about the wonderful qualities you want in this perfect lover. You might even write a list. Then you put your desire out to the Universe — you pray, you ask, you present your wishes in whatever way feels comfortable to you.

That SHOULD be the end of it. You’ve done all you need to do. You’ve gotten clear on what you want and you’ve asked for it.

The Universe responds instantly. It begins orchestrating all the details, aligning all the energies needed to bring you your perfect lover. It can find a thousand different ways to bring her or him to you.

All you have to do is stay out of the way. But often you don’t.

You start wondering why s/he hasn’t shown up yet. You start wondering if s/he’ll ever show up. You start looking at the troubled relationships among your friends, and you wonder if that will happen to you too. You start wondering if you’re worthy of this perfect lover, if you deserve to be that happy.

And on and on — you get the idea.

But all you really have to do, once you’ve asked, is to go about your merry business. Look for the positives in your life, in yourself, in your friends, in the world around you. You don’t even have to give your perfect lover another thought. All you have to do is KNOW s/he is on the way. All you have to do is seek joy in every aspect of your life — big joys and little joys.

The more joyful you are, the more quickly and easily you will manifest your lover, or anything else you want, for that matter.

It really is that simple. You ask. The Universe answers. Then go play and have fun. Your perfect lover is on the way. It cannot be otherwise for, as it’s been said in your bibles and in many other formats, “Ask and you shall receive.”

That’s it! All you have to do is ask. Then go seek your joy, and all you wish for WILL manifest.

Manifesting is about the simplest, easiest thing you’ll ever do once you believe “Ask and you shall receive.”


Are you aware of the ways you block the manifestations you want? We all do it, at least now and then. Please share with us below.

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4 Responses

  1. Silvy

    Writing @ 1:11 on September 11 … Well, I keep asking the Universe ‘Please, give me ‘signs’ that I’m on the right path’ So I guess I get the answer … I love what Spirit says about asking and how the Universal forces work and it gives me such a relief to think that I can consciously dream about the life I desire.

    Oh! I’m so good at that 🙂 I write so much and describe with such precision my desires. I enjoy buying beautiful notebooks and write using different colors … I can feel I’m ‘connected’ , I have goosebumps all over my body… BUT and here is the thing that I’m totally aware of and makes me mad at the same time. The ‘Letting Go’ part … I ask myself ‘Why do I have that feeling that by letting go, it’s NOT going to happen!” I asked, Source answers, done! Now, get out of the way, let the Universe work! Perfect, conceptually speaking but I really have to internalize it! Aaaahhhhh!
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    • John Cali

      Thank you very much, Silvy. For most folks, that’s the hardest part of manifesting — letting go and letting God. 🙂

  2. Ron

    Quote ” The more joyful you are, the more quickly and easily you will manifest your lover, or anything else you want, for that matter.” I am a big Abe fan and have been since ’98 and was a Seth fan before that. What I quoted here is pretty basic to their way of speaking. Yet I have a question about the energy required post-asking.

    After learning about the law of attraction I went about doing experiments to see if what I had read actually worked. I was a beginner so I did not have all the theory down pat. So when I ran across friends who were being negative, who were sad or depressed, I listened to them and imagined what my approach to their stories needed to be in order to effect change. I would ask them how they would feel if the shiny new red car would pop up and held that discussion for as long as I reasonably could. What about the details? Do you prefer leather seats or not? What type of transmission do you like best? And on and on it went, sometimes up to 15 minutes. The shiny new red car showed up within hours. The dream lover and boy did she ever have an imagination appeared within about two months. That conversation included the number of children (six) that they would have, the type of animals they would have on their small farm on the hill, and as many details as I could think of in 15 minutes. Another was how would my friend feel if he received a phone call apologizing for a shunning action which had gotten him very angry complete with telling him that he could come down to the office to pick a check for the money they owed him for the last six months. That one manifested within two hours.
    The point I want to make is that I doubt very much that these people’s states, their way of focusing changed very much after I left them from how they habitually focused. Our little conversations did alter their energy momentarily all right but I was just an insignificant person shooting the breeze and their expectations would not have changed. Yet the manifestations all occurred whether they stood in their own way or not. Personally I did expect them and I certainly did not stress about them. I was just having fun. So yes I had done all the right steps from the point of view of my reality. So does that mean that I can effect other people’s realities in spite of themselves? I suppose one could say that this is what a healer does in a way. Have I answered my own question?

    • John Cali

      Neither I nor my spirit guides believe you can create other people’s experiences. However, you can certainly influence others. If, even for a moment, they accept your positive perspective you have powerfully influenced them. You may never see the results, but you have made a difference in their lives.

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