Happiness Revisited by John Cali

A few weeks ago I received a rather harshly worded email criticizing what Spirit and I have said about human happiness over the years.

John Cali

Here’s part of the email, just as I received it:

“This is all bullshit John. What you are spreading is under-baked understanding. Thought and continuous happiness cannot go together.”

I’ve received similar comments in the past. It still surprises me so many folks think happiness in this lifetime is a near-impossible dream. Certainly, “continuous happiness” is not most people’s experience. But to imply, as the email writer seems to be doing, that thought and happiness don’t mix is, in my opinion, the real BS.

A couple weeks ago I read an interesting research study of twins. After following a number of twins over many years, the researchers found the twin who looked the youngest almost always lived the longest.

Have you ever noticed happy people look younger than unhappy people the same age? Spirit has said the happier you are, the longer you live.

Life is as hard or as easy, as sad or as joyful as we want to make it. US President Abraham Lincoln once said “A man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be.”

We cannot control others or the world at large, but we are in total control of our thoughts — and, therefore, of the reality we create with those thoughts.

That makes sense to me. Does it to you?

Here’s a review of what Spirit has said about happiness over the years.


Happiness is such a seemingly elusive goal for many humans. Certainly most of you have experienced unhappiness in your lives at one time or another. But that does not mean unhappiness is your natural state of being. Quite the opposite. Happiness is your natural state of being.

When you remember who you truly are, what we just said will make perfect sense.

You are God. Period! Yes, you occupy human male and female bodies at the moment. But you are God nonetheless, God in human form. You are, in this state of being God, fully aligned with your higher selves. Your higher selves are also God.

It really is that simple. Don’t make it complicated or difficult. You are God. Every aspect of you, human and spirit, is God.

You, as your higher selves, chose this current incarnation. Even if you chose challenging circumstances into which to be born, you chose it all because you intended to find joy here, to find happiness in exercising your divine creative powers.

Your higher self, that wiser broader part of you, lives eternally in a state of perfect happiness. You — the human part of you — when you are aligned with your higher selves, are also happy. And it won’t matter what is happening in the world around you. It won’t matter what other people are choosing to do with their lives.

All that matters, all that ever has or ever will matter, are the thoughts you think, the choices you make as a result of those thoughts.

Happiness is a choice you can freely make. Unhappiness is a choice you can freely make. No one, nothing can compel you to be either happy or unhappy. It’s as President Lincoln said — you are as happy as you decide to be.

When you fully acknowledge and accept you are God, you cannot be anything other than happy. When you know you, as God in human form, deserve to be happy, you will be.

But when you believe happiness is an impossible dream, so it will be for you. You will find unhappiness everywhere you look.

When you believe happiness is your birthright, you will find happiness everywhere you look. When you deliberately choose joyful thoughts most of the time, you will be happy. You will be at peace with yourselves and the world.

Will you be happy or unhappy? It’s your choice.


How happy are you? Do you believe, as President Lincoln said, you can be as happy as you choose? Please comment below.

4 Responses

  1. Michael

    It’s a choice, Everything has an oppsite, good or bad, up or down, happy or unhappy. It’s all up to you, what choice are you making? If you create drama you make for an unhappy life, but if you spread the love which God so freely gave you then you create happiness, unity and compassion for others and this will lead you to happiness. Life is what we make it to be. It always comes back to a choice…….

  2. anny

    Well, I have certainly been much happier since I started focussing on love and positive things than I was in the time I was dwelling on everything that went wrong in my life and in general.

    I think that the notion that thought and continuous happiness cannot go together comes from the idea that thoughts are something you do not have control over. And whereas it is certainly true that unwanted thoughts may enter your awareness when something unpleasant happens, it all depends on what you decide to do with those thoughts. When you just observe them and let them go, they will not influence you but when you allow the negative emotions that come up to become your master, then you loose control. But when you let them go again and focus on happy things, then you will be happy. And after a while of doing this not quite so many negative thoughts will enter your head any more and I trust that in the end they will stop coming altogether.

  3. Monica

    If we can remember to find the positive in any situation, there is always a reason to be happy

  4. George

    Yes, we can do much to create happiness for ourselves. Yet we cannot easily dismiss all of the unpleasantness that we find in our lives. For example, I cannot be very happy right now because I have a serious cold infection with a constantly running nose. Also, I cannot forget that I have a dentist appointment tomorrow. I look forward to the dentist improving my dental health but I am concerned that I be healthy enough to be an acceptable patient.

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