Self-Esteem Revisited by John Cali

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How do you feel about yourself? I mean everything about you, especially your physical body. Good or bad or somewhere in-between?

John Cali

Spirit and I have talked about self-esteem before, most recently in this article. It’s obvious that many — probably including ourselves, at least at one time or another — suffer from low self-esteem. It’s one of the worst causes of human misery on this planet today.

A Gallup poll reports 2 out of 3 Americans suffer from low self-esteem. That’s almost a whopping 70 percent of the population! And I’m sure Americans have no monopoly on low self-esteem.

So we’ve decided to revisit the subject in today’s article, and have included a revised repeat of what Spirit said in our earlier article.

Many years ago Wayne Dyer told a wonderful true story about self-esteem. He was counseling a married woman nearing middle age. She had really low self-esteem, and her husband wasn’t helping her any.

Wayne described the husband as this super-macho guy who’d jog home from his vasectomy. Just to give you an idea. (He sounds like some of the guys I know out here in Wyoming.)

The woman was extraordinarily beautiful and had a gorgeous body. But she couldn’t see any of that.

So in one of their sessions, Wayne told her he wanted her to go home after the session, take off all her clothes, and stand in front of a full-length mirror. He instructed her to simply look at all sides of her body in the mirror. He wanted her to admire, love, and appreciate her body, to see how beautiful she really was.

(I’m paraphrasing below, as I don’t recall the exact dialogue.)

So she did as Wayne suggested. While she was standing in front of the mirror completely naked, her husband walks in. “What in the hell are you doing?” he demanded.

“I saw Dr. Dyer today,” she replied, “and he told me to do this, so I can see how beautiful my body is, and appreciate and admire every part of it.”

“And what did he say about your 40-year-old ass?” her husband sneered.

She instantly shot back “Well, your name didn’t even come up today.”

She was obviously well on her way to greater self-esteem.

Here’s Spirit.


Your modern society gives you mixed messages about esteem for yourselves and others. You are generally taught to have great esteem for your parents, your spouses, your churches, your schools, your governments, etc. But rarely are you taught to have equal esteem for yourselves.

That is the mass consciousness. Many humans have bought into it.

So you have a world filled with old souls struggling with their human experiences. As your planet experiences more and more changes, sometimes literally earth-shaking, self-esteem is often one of the casualties.

There is no way you can live the life of your dreams if you buy into the mass consciousness. There’s no way you can live the life of your dreams if you are not the person of your dreams.

It all comes down to love. Love, pure and simple. If you love yourselves, esteem yourselves, you will return to the vision, the dream your higher selves have for you, the human aspects of themselves.

You live in a tough world. But not so tough you cannot navigate through it. Though tough enough — diverse enough — to give you some interesting experiences and opportunities for growth.

You are not here to suffer, although many of you have chosen to suffer. You are not here to live in lack, although many of you have chosen that too. You are not here to be depressed, although many of you follow that path.

You are here to realize you are at the end of thousands of years of self-imposed limitation. You are here to grow, to expand. And to do it all in joy.

All is well.

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