- Do you take on the problems and grief of others out of habit?
- What can you do to change that?
- Can you think of more positive, constructive ways to help them?
I have quite a few folks among my family and friends, mostly women, who are genuinely loving people, but who often take care of others while neglecting themselves. Sound familiar?
I call this false responsibility. Not false in the sense of being phony, but false in the sense of having misaligned priorities.
These folks, for whatever reasons, feel unduly responsible for others. Sometimes it seems for practically the whole world. Or at least the world of their families and friends.