The Ending of a Life by John Cali

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I’m writing this on Thanksgiving Day (in the United States). I just found out about the death of a dear friend.

My spirit guides have said for years there is no death. What we call death is an illusion. It’s not the ending of a life, but only the beginning of a new life.

I believe that, and have always accepted it. The past several years we’ve had many deaths in our family. I did not have a hard time with any of them. Most of those folks had lived good, long lives and were ready to go.

But this latest death hit me hard. My reaction shocked the hell out of me. In my head and my heart I know death is not the end of us. So my emotional reaction to this latest death baffled me.

I still haven’t completely sorted it out. But then I know I don’t need to.

Life and death do not always take us where we thought we wanted to go. When that happens, instead of resistance we need acceptance. Then we will find peace.

On this day of celebration, of giving thanks, I’m grateful my life was so deeply touched by my departed friend. I am forever changed. And I know we will meet again.

Have you had similar reactions to the death of a loved one? Please comment below.

8 Responses

  1. Patricia

    My mom died on January 1, 2011. It shocked me because I had talked to her that afternoon to confirm our plans for the next day’s New Year’s celebration with our family. Upon her passing, my world suddently went into slow motion and I felt energy in every breath like I had not ever felt before. I could feel how every thought and word had an essence that either felt good or not so good. I was being taught deep awareness of my creator power. I also couldn’t keep my focus off my heart. If I did, I would get a pounding headache and my jaw would freeze up. I was being taught how to stay in my heart and I am so glad I was able to do that. In a couple days, I experienced a deep peace fill my physical garment starting from the top of my head and pour into every cell. I was filled with a loving strength words cannot explain. That was so beautiful. My sense of guilt, sadness, and aloneness departed and I was so strong in the present moment. Her transistion filled me with rich insights on all levels of my life and continues. I kept saying to myself the only other time I have felt this way was when I gave birth to our 2 sons. I feel I have experienced her death totally through the eyes of my Spirit and I know there is only life. It has been an exquisite experience that is hard for many to really understand, yet I do not feel guilty that it has been this beautiful for me. We are such beautiful and amazing creations – this truth is my daily journey. May the Blessings Be!

    • John Cali

      Thank you very much, Patricia, for sharing your beautiful story. As you said, when we live from our Spirit self, we know there is no death, only life.


  2. Jeannie

    When we lose a loved one we feel lost. It touches us in our emotions. Love always is, life always is and death is just a doorway to another room. We know all this yet we still feel lost. Once we widen our precepts of life to include those who travel into other rooms we will not feel so lost though one is allowed a certain sadness for we will not see them in the physical. Even feeling sad will lead us to joy for we will remember the joy of our loved one .

    I have had a friend a few years ago go through that door and yet he came back to me to show life goes on. He was so full of love and energy yet there are those who would not believe it happened which doesn’t matter. I know it did.

    Yet as I said sadness will bring us to the memory of the loved one and the sweetness will bring joy back into our hearts.

    love and hugs

    • admin

      Thank you very much, Jeannie.

      Love and hugs to you, my dear,

  3. Jerry

    I had experienced the passing of a few people, but the big one was when my wife passed. I felt like my life had ended… and I was still alive while dying. We had been married 36 years and our house number also has those same digits (306). Is is hard to fathom the depth of loss when something like this happens and dealing with the resulting emotions and thoughts.
    Be well dear friend, John. I have an idea how you feel.
    Many blessings of love!

    • admin

      Thank you very much, Jerry. All is well.

      Many blessings of love to you also,

  4. admin

    Thank you very much, Terri, for your kind comments. I agree with you — our loved ones are always with us, “dead” or “alive.” As Chief Joseph used to say often, “You never lose those you love.”

    Happy Thanksgiving!

  5. Terri Powell

    Greetings John,

    Isn’t it nice to surprise ourself? And beautiful that someone touched you so deeply. While this isn’t your addressed subject – it dovetails. I’ve played with the concept of “missing” someone whether it be because of transition to non-physical or a relationship that has ended. That person is forever etched in our hearts. What I’ve come to realize is that they are always with me. I can go to my heart and feel them anytime. But my mind wants to take me on a ride of longing for them or needing them to be physically in front of me. It’s an interesting subject and one to continue exploring. Thanks for sharing.

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