Accepting Total Responsibility for Our Lives

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 You cannot hope to build a better world without improving the individuals. To that end each of us must work for his own improvement, and at the same time share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular duty being to aid those to whom we think we can be the most useful. ~ Marie Curie, physicist and first woman to win a Nobel Prize


I know some of you are familiar with the work of Dr. Hew Len in the Hawaiian ritual of Ho’oponopono. The basis of Ho’oponopono is that each of us is totally responsible for everything in our lives—everything.

My spirit guides have been saying that for years. However, whenever we remind folks, we often meet with resistance. No surprise there.

What would be your response if someone said you were responsible for everything in your life? Not all that long ago, my response was total disbelief. How on earth could I be responsible for what I see in the world out there? The answer is I made the world “out there.” Therefore, I am responsible for it.

For those not familiar with Dr. Hew Len’s work, let me briefly describe it here.

Dr. Hew Len

Long ago, Dr. Len worked four years at Hawaii State Hospital in a ward for the criminally insane.. The professional staff almost literally hated working there. After all, it was a pretty dangerous place. Unsurprisingly,there was a continual turnover of staff.

Dr. Len never saw patients. He simply sat in his office and reviewed the patient files. Then he would work on healing whatever needed healing in himself. He did this by repeating “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”

Patients started being released. Today that ward is closed.

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Here’s a fascinating interview with Dr. Hew Len. He explains how each of us is 100% responsible for what we see in the world “out there.”


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10 Responses

  1. beachdrifter

    Wow, John, thank you so much for introducing me to that interview with Dr. Len! Even though I’ve never fully resonated with his specific technique (verbiage etc.), I sure do with the man himself, and what he has to say here! Great stuff!

    • John Cali

      Hi beachdrifter — it’s been a long time! “Coincidentally,” I was thinking about you just a few days ago. 🙂

      I’ve only recently come across Dr. Hew Len. And, although I’ve heard about Ho’oponopono, I didn’t know much about it, or him. But I’m with you — I resonated with him pretty powerfully.

      Several folks have told me, after they saw that first interview, they watched the entire 9 in the series. I think I’m going to do that too.

      I hope all is well with you, my dear friend.

      • beachdrifter

        Hi John, that is so cool!

        I’m doing well, thank you!

        The reason the technique didn’t resonate with me was because the main formula doesn’t fit with my own perspective of things.

        For example you say “Please forgive me!”, but… in my view Source, or God, never forgives anybody – because Source never ever condemns anyone to begin with.

        Or saying “I love you!” when you’re really in a state so far from love at that moment… it just doesn’t work for me.

        However, having watched the interview now (in fact, John, I watched all 9 parts yesterday and then again today because they resonated so strongly), I can see where Len is coming from. It’s just a different sort of bridge that he’s building towards the same goal that every effective spiritual teaching has:

        Redraw from the details of your physical experience enough that you reach that state of alignment (or zero point, or meditation, or whatever word you use for it), and THEN act. Come from a pure place, instead of a contradicted/resistant/annoyed/worried/fearful place.

        I love the interview so much, because I always thought that Len’s teachings weren’t compatible with what I know, but it turns out they are fundamentally the same, just a different approach that appeals to a different audience with a different background than mine.

        So good to see that! And it’s probably true for every other spiritual approach that works, also.

        • John Cali

          Hi again, beachdrifter,

          Glad to hear you’re doing well.

          When I first heard of Ho’oponopono, I had an initial reaction similar yours — what little I knew of it didn’t resonate with me or with where I was at that point. Especially the parts you point out — “Forgive me” and “I love you.” So I never pursued it till now.

          I haven’t watched the other interviews yet, but I certainly will now that you and several others have mentioned how powerful they are.

          I think you said it perfectly: Redraw from the details of your physical experience enough that you reach that state of alignment (or zero point, or meditation, or whatever word you use for it), and THEN act. Come from a pure place, instead of a contradicted/resistant/annoyed/worried/fearful place.

          I’ve been studying A Course in Miracles the past 4 years, and love it. I can see a strong similarity between Dr. Len’s work and the Course. Also, I can see a similar parallel between the Course and the Roman Catholic tradition I was raised in (and am no longer a part of, by choice).

          In fact, as you said, the similarities probably apply to every other spiritual approach that works. And as my spirit guides said many years ago, “All paths lead home.”

  2. Thriving

    Watch all 9 of the interviews to appreciate the depth of this.

  3. Ron B.

    I agree completely, well. almost completely. From a psychological point of view, yes, we create whatever is out there. However what many view as accepting personal responsability is more like judging and blaming and that is a two-step-backwards time. Further, in a complicated system, we have another law at work which is not law of attraction and that is the law of accident. Whether I refer to something like the human body or to space/rocket technology it is easy to verify that sometimes stuff just happens due to complexity. We simply have to accept it and move on. Complexity and change are necessary in this reality in order to provide fuel for evolution. That means that what worked perfectly in the past may not in the future or present for that matter. Thank you for the illuminating article. I had not been remembering Dr. Hew Len and Ho´Oponopono for quite a while now, lol.

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Ron. It’s only been the past couple of years or so that I’ve learned about Dr. Hew Len and his work. I find it all very fascinating.

      • Ron B.

        As stated above it is easy to try to judge others´ thoughts according to how they fit within our belief system. It is quite another to go out and verify, even when the recommendations are simple and clear. Happy Valentines !

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