Do you find it hard to forgive someone who perhaps has hurt you? Or maybe you find it hard to forgive even yourself for past misdeeds.
I have a lifelong friend I grew up with. Though we’ve drifted apart over the years, we’re still in touch occasionally. Sue (not her real name) never got along well with her mother.
After Sue married, the estrangement grew deeper and more bitter. Eventually her mother became very ill, but lingered on a few years. Sue refused to ever visit or call her. Then her mother died. Sue did not go to the funeral and, to all appearances, had erased her mother’s memory from her mind.
But had she really? I cannot imagine myself going through that experience. How would I feel, now that there was no chance of reconciliation? At least in this lifetime. How would you feel?
We are going to say something right here at the start which may surprise or even shock some of you:
There is never a need or reason to forgive another person. That’s not your job.
True forgiveness, friends, is forgetting — forgetting the pain, the anger, the sadness — and remembering the love.
Forgiveness is really about letting go. Letting go, and forgetting, the pain you’re holding onto. And whatever that pain is, you — not the other person — created it. The pain is self-inflicted. Always, no exceptions.
Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person. It has everything to do with you, and only you.
Do you think God holds grudges? Do you think your higher self holds resentments?
When you are willing to go through that process you call forgiveness, you are remembering who you are, who your higher self is — God.
If you insist on forgiving, then forgive yourself. Whatever real or imagined harm the other person did, did not hurt you. Only your thoughts allowed you to be hurt.
No one can hurt you without your consent. The other person, acting in the best way she or he could in the moment, was there in that moment because the two of you co-created that experience.
No one is to “blame.”
If you see such situations from your higher self’s perspective, your pain will go away. All that will remain is the love.
Pain is illusion. Love is real.
Where in your life do you need forgiveness?
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