When my son was growing up, he and I loved to visit graveyards. Through the years, we visited many. They ranged from the United States Civil War battlefields, to those of the American Old West, and those of our Italian immigrant family.

As we strolled among the gravestones, reading them as we walked, we often felt a deep sense of peace. It may seem ironic, but these scenes of death brought us feelings of healing and comfort.


What you feel when you visit graveyards is a piercing of the veil between life and death, between the physical and the spiritual.

In truth, there is no separation between humans and spirit. They are merely different aspects of life, which is eternal.

What you often feel when you visit a graveyard, especially if the bodies of your loved ones lie there, is a lifting of the veil between the so-called living and dead.

But there is no death, only life—eternal life. Your experience of that eternal life changes, depending on where you have chosen to be on the life-death spectrum.

As we said, there is no death. Your human eyes tell you that statement is a lie. No death? you may ask. Then what do all these gravestones represent? Are they an illusion?

Yes, they are, in fact, an illusion.

While we respect your human traditions, limited though they be, we want you to see beyond their limits.

It is good that you have chosen to experience life in physical form. But the only purpose of that experience is to grow from and beyond it. And to become fully aware of who you truly are—which is eternal spirit in temporary physical form.

You see, your spirits live in a state of eternal expansiveness and joy. Being who they are—playful, joyful beings—they wish to sample, if you will, life in all its different aspects.

One of those aspects is the experience you call death. But death is not the end. It is merely a step on the happy joyful journey you, as spirit, have chosen to play in for a while. As we have said, death is the easiest thing you will ever do.

Death is only for a while, and it is always play.

Your spirit lives in a state of eternal joy—what you sometimes call heaven. This heaven is the place you have never truly left, the home you live in forever.

The peace you may find in graveyards is simply a reminder of the truth you have often forgotten: You are eternal. You never die. You live forever.

Rejoice in that truth, and be joyful always, and in all ways.

Copyright © 2022 by John Cali and Berna Copray
Edited by Berna Copray

This video gives us a short and fascinating history of graveyards.

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8 Responses

  1. Tom

    Hi John, I’ve fainted once due a blood pressure issue: my consciousness and sense of identity just completely disappeared.

    When I got back to my senses, the experience made me think that one needs a functioning brain to sustain consciousness.. After many years of study and practice my world model is what Spirit (and many others) describes, still I’d be curious to know what you think about what happened while I blanked out..

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Tom, for your comments. Your experience with your “blackout” is very intriguing. I’m sure Spirit has some thoughts on this. We’ll be happy to do another post on the subject — it would be an interesting follow-up.

  2. Jackie Haverty

    Dearest John, I have been reading your blogs for years and have always greatly appreciated your ability to capture the essence of truth within so many subjects that humanity is finally beginning to open to within life and death. I too lived or a short time next to a graveyard only a few feet from my yard. I loved it! Peace was found looking at the graveyard through the window while washing dishes. Sort of a meditative experience.
    I am currently looking into MAID (Medical Assistance in Death) here in Canada for the near future. I want to leave with a celebration of love for my body, my family, my life, and everyone who has chosen an earth life at this time. What better way to leave earth than cognizant of the great love we leave in the hearts of others.
    Thank you for broaching these subjects!

    • John Cali

      Hi Jackie. Thanks so much for your kind comments.

      Life and death have always been difficult subjects for most humans. As you say, people are now finally beginning to realize these subjects, particularly death, can no longer be pushed aside or ignored completely. As my spirit guides (and many other teachers and guides) say, we’re living in a time of a greater transformation than anyone has ever experienced in human history.

      I think you’ve described the “graveyard experience” perfectly—“a meditative experience.”

      The MAID organization you mentioned sounds very interesting. I’ll check them out. If we do a followup to this post, I’ll be sure to mention them.

      You describe death in deeply powerful, moving words. What a great way to leave this world!

  3. Liz

    We have a graveyard right down the road. I’ve often gone to visit my Mother’s grave and also wandered around looking at all the old tombstones and recognizing some of the names of people who lived in this small community. Recently I read a book written by a Psychic Medium and how when she was younger, she inadvertently “picked” up an entity at the graveyard she was visiting. I suddenly remembered that, while I was there a couple of days ago, and I voiced out loud that no one was allowed to follow me home. I have never worried about that before and wondered if it has anything to do with one’s state of being or spiritual “openness” (for a lack of a better term) that someone’s spirit may “see” you differently and want to go home with you.

    • John Cali

      Thank you, Liz, for your thoughtful comments.

      I think it’s entirely possible to “pick up” an entity, or spirit, at a graveyard. Or anywhere else, for that matter. But graveyards carry a special energy that makes them particularly helpful in connecting with the spirits of those buried there.

      Spirits can certainly see those who visit graveyards. And they can, as you say, “want to go home with you.” This happens often, and can account for so-called “haunted houses.”

      As my guides often say, we never lose those we love. The “veil” between the “living” and the “dead” has never been thinner. Of course, there is no death, only eternal life.

  4. Carin Olofsson

    Growing up with a graveyard “next door”, I learned at an early age how peaceful and beautiful it is. It is fascinating to look at all the tombstones and try to sense who the persons behind the names were. That is why I have done some reasearch about some of them, and presented them on my website (in Swedish only).

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