Thoughts On Life and Death

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There is no death because what God created shares His life. There is no death because an opposite to God does not exist. ~ A Course in Miracles


As some of you may know, I just returned to Wyoming from a family funeral in New York. I don’t mean to sound irreverent, but we had fun and laughed a lot.

It reminded me of another family funeral long ago, for my cousin Giuseppe. Giuseppe died at a relatively young age. As a typical Italian immigrant family, we were all very close. If you’re familiar with Italian culture, you know they love partying.

Giuseppe’s death, of course, was sad, especially since it had been so sudden and unexpected. But after the funeral, the family had a big celebration—lots of food, fun, wine and laughter. It was one of the best parties I’d ever attended.

I realize some folks are likely uncomfortable with the idea of having a funeral and then throwing a party. But I believe life should be fun, even when it’s not.


At night when you lay your head on your pillow and drift off to another dimension, you dream and dream. Some nights the dreaming seems endless.

Those nightly dreams, when you are aware of them (as you usually are to some extent) are often vivid and real.

Then, in the morning, you awaken to the “real” world. Your dreams fade and vanish. You may think to yourself, “Well, they weren’t real after all.” Even though at the time you were absolutely certain of their reality.

What we just described is exactly the process you all go through when you experience what you call “death.” Death is simply the end of the dream. It is not the end of you.

This life you are living right now is a dream. As you are reading these words of ours, it’s a dream. It’s all a dream.

Dreams are not serious because they are not real, no matter how disturbing they feel. Physical life is not serious because it is not real. The true reality is what you experience after you “die.” Of course, you never die—it just seems that way.

So, as long as you choose to remain in the dream of life, have fun—laugh—bring joy into the lives of others. And then when you move through and beyond the veil of “death,” you’ll find even more joy, fun and laughter.

You’re here to be happy, nothing less. That’s what God—the Creator, Goddess, however you describe that universal power—wants for you.

Copyright © 2018 by John Cali


Big Tom McBride is a legendary Irish country singer, formerly a member of The Mainliners band. Some say he’s the Irish equivalent of Johnny Cash in the United States.

Big Tom died last month. His funeral was a joyous (albeit sad also) celebration of his life, with lots of fun and lots of tears.

This first video is a short, hilarious take on funerals. The sound track is Big Tom singing the hit song, The Same Way You Came In.

The second video is longer, about 36 minutes. It was filmed at the celebration Big Tom’s family, former band mates and friends held after his funeral. If you care to watch it, you’ll get an idea of the joy and fun Tom must have brought into the lives of so many over many years.



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12 Responses

  1. Ron B.

    One more thought which might be controversial, lol, is that the ¨not fun¨ part is just as essential. Without it, without the contrast, life would become kinda bland.
    That is what makes funerals a good place/time to party. Looking at the phenomenon and the memories of such events/experiences, something else happens, appreciation.
    Appreciation then is a great the doorway to love, a revolving door too.

  2. Ron B.

    Whether life is fun or not is mostly a decision. As always there are exceptions.
    If exceptions did not exist we would have eliminated ourselves from this game long long ago. Our job is to help expand the universe and the plan is to use diversity to accomplish this. When a society decides to cut out the diversity part it has decided to cut out the love part and that is certainly the beginning of the end of the fun part.

    Thank you for the questions. They help me decide which way to go for a while.

    • John Cali

      Thanks again. I completely agree with you — fun is a choice we are free to make or not make. I think the same applies to happiness. Some folks are always happy and having fun, no matter what is going on around them. And others are always unhappy, no matter how much “good” they have in their lives.

  3. Pat

    I hope so, John, that it will be a cause for joyful celebration and may this be a way for us when we choose to return back home. Your welcome. I’m happy to share.

  4. Pat

    Good thoughts, John. I’d rather like to think death can be a loving and happy gathering rather than a lot of sadness. I remember when my grandmother died. She was one of whom I was most influenced in my early life. She had a special connection with the spirit world similar to you and it scared me a lot, as a child, but introduced me to the possibilities of the other side and new dimensions.

    Upon going to her funeral, we all talked about her in the car going down to Virginia. There were so many good stories and we laughed so hard some times (thought we would wet our pants).

    I love that and would rather be remembered like that as a life well lived and people felt loved. I believe it’s what you and your spirit guides are trying to say that life is full of joy when filled with love even at times of death much like what’s being shown in the videos.

    Thank you for sharing.

    • John Cali

      Thanks so much, Pat, for sharing about your grandmother.

      I think sharing memories and stories are an important a part of celebrating the lives of those we love. As you say, even death can be a cause for joyful celebration. May it be that way for us when we choose to return back home.

  5. Jean Horn

    Life and death is suppose to be fun. We are creative creatures who love to play with the energy of the universe. It’s when we forget our own joy and creativity that we get tangled up in this reality. Yet there are no real strings and we can just touch the knot of doubt and fear and tada! we are untangled and back to playfully creating each moment even we think we don’t

    Sometimes I question whether I am dead or alive……….how can we tell for both are a focus of our intention.

    So skip through life and death with a smile and a laugh for as the Klingon’s say it’s a good day to die ! Yes I’m a star trek fan in all its incarnations .

    love and hugs

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Jeannie. I’m not a Star Trek fan, but I love that quotation.
      Love & hugs, John

  6. George Ball

    A great video of a funeral episode; especially the guy in the coffin winking. Love, George

    • John Cali

      Thank you, George. I thought that was pretty funny too. My spirit guides are fond of saying death is not that serious. 🙂

      Love, John

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