Now, as I turn 85…with my life closer to its end than its beginning, I wish to help give people dignity in dying….Dying people should have the right to choose how and when they leave Mother Earth.

– Desmond Tutu, Nobel Peace laureate and Archbishop Emeritus of Capetown, South Africa –

When my son was growing up, one of his and my favorite pastimes was visiting graveyards, especially those where people among our family and friends were buried. It still is, even now that he has his own family.

That may sound gruesome or macabre to some folks, but he and I always found a deep sense of serenity in graveyards. We could feel the spirits of those whose bodies rested there—they were invariably peaceful and joyful.

I think I can safely say virtually everyone reading this post understands that physical death is not the end of us. And yet, many still fear death. Why do you suppose that is?

Most of us live in cultures where death is the enemy. We do everything possible to postpone death, even if it means the dying ones suffer indescribable physical pain and mental anguish.

That’s certainly changing for the better, but it’s still the rule. In the movie, Tuning In, one of my spirit guides said “Dying is the easiest thing you will ever do.” But our society seems hell-bent on making the prelude to dying difficult.

Seth, channelled by Jane Roberts once said, “Dying is a spiritual and psychological necessity, for after a while the exuberant, ever-renewed energies of the spirit can no longer be translated into flesh….The self outgrows the flesh.”

I’d like to share a little personal story. Many years ago a family member, still young and healthy, was diagnosed with ALS (also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease). He lingered for many years, steadily deteriorating physically but mentally alert till the end. He had a strong spiritual foundation and was not afraid to die. Since he no longer found joy in living, he would have willingly accepted “assisted suicide.” But neither the law nor the family would have allowed it in those days.
So why are we, as a society, so dead-set against death and dying? Pun intended. 🙂
Is assisted suicide morally wrong, or is it a gift of mercy and loving kindness?

I’ll end this post with these thoughts from Archbishop Tutu:

I welcome anyone who has the courage to say, as a Christian, that we should give dying people the right to leave this world with dignity. . . . In refusing dying people the right to die with dignity, we fail to demonstrate the compassion that lies at the heart of Christian values.

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