You need only reflect that one of the best ways to get yourself a reputation as a dangerous (United States) citizen these days is to go about repeating the very phrases which our founding fathers used in the struggle for independence. ~ Charles Austin Beard

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Flying Eagle

I’ve had some interesting opportunities to play with the energies of relationships recently. So I wanted to briefly share my thoughts with you because they’re related to this message from Spirit.

Lately I’ve been paying attention to how I interact with other people. Often I’ll catch myself almost unconsciously mirroring their words or feelings.

For example, I may have allowed their vibration of anger to set up a similar vibration in me — even when, a moment before, I may have been feeling peaceful and calm.

In effect, I’ve been letting others determine my thoughts, actions, and feelings. I’ve allowed them to set my standards for me.

Since I’ve been paying such close attention to this, I’m now becoming more skilled in simply remaining centered in my own peacefulness — while at the same time being fully and lovingly present for the other person as he or she works through whatever the issue is.

Here’s Spirit.


It’s about time for your personal declaration of independence. How often have you let “them” determine the standards for your life? “Them” could be almost anyone or anything outside yourself — your parents, your spouse, other family members, friends, church, government, etc. etc.

When you were little children, many of you were so spontaneous and free. You immersed yourselves in the joy of life. But after hearing your elders say “NO!” to your joyous outbursts, you became little robots — little adults. You stuffed your free and joyous spontaneity, and instead submitted yourselves to cold, rigid and joyless standards of conduct.

Many of you are still allowing others to set your standards — to dictate what thou shalt and what thou shalt not do, think, believe, and feel.

Well, the dawn of the day of reckoning is at hand. It is time for you to reclaim your birthright — the birthright of joy you knew as a child.

It’s time for your declaration of independence.


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