Declaration of Independence by John Cali and Spirit

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You need only reflect that one of the best ways to get yourself a reputation as a dangerous (United States) citizen these days is to go about repeating the very phrases which our founding fathers used in the struggle for independence. ~ Charles Austin Beard

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Flying Eagle

I’ve had some interesting opportunities to play with the energies of relationships recently. So I wanted to briefly share my thoughts with you because they’re related to this message from Spirit.

Lately I’ve been paying attention to how I interact with other people. Often I’ll catch myself almost unconsciously mirroring their words or feelings.

For example, I may have allowed their vibration of anger to set up a similar vibration in me — even when, a moment before, I may have been feeling peaceful and calm.

In effect, I’ve been letting others determine my thoughts, actions, and feelings. I’ve allowed them to set my standards for me.

Since I’ve been paying such close attention to this, I’m now becoming more skilled in simply remaining centered in my own peacefulness — while at the same time being fully and lovingly present for the other person as he or she works through whatever the issue is.

Here’s Spirit.


It’s about time for your personal declaration of independence. How often have you let “them” determine the standards for your life? “Them” could be almost anyone or anything outside yourself — your parents, your spouse, other family members, friends, church, government, etc. etc.

When you were little children, many of you were so spontaneous and free. You immersed yourselves in the joy of life. But after hearing your elders say “NO!” to your joyous outbursts, you became little robots — little adults. You stuffed your free and joyous spontaneity, and instead submitted yourselves to cold, rigid and joyless standards of conduct.

Many of you are still allowing others to set your standards — to dictate what thou shalt and what thou shalt not do, think, believe, and feel.

Well, the dawn of the day of reckoning is at hand. It is time for you to reclaim your birthright — the birthright of joy you knew as a child.

It’s time for your declaration of independence.


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12 Responses

  1. Cathy Houston

    Hi John, Happy Independence Day to you and yours!
    Surely Chief Joseph had come to the place that you were talking about when he said he would not got to war again in his life. He lost so much but his awareness and living example for what freedom is about, is very humbling. Being true to our hearts helps us all
    Thank you John and loads of freedom and independence and LOVE! Cathy

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Cathy. I’m a bit late replying to you — so I hope you had a Happy Independence Day yesterday! I agree with all you say about Joseph. He certainly taught us all a lot.

      Lots of love and hugs to you, Cathy!

  2. Barbara

    Jon Stewart and Nicola Sturgeon discuss independence. I just love when Jon says “they hate it when you throw their stuff into the water”.

    Happy 4th of July everyone.

  3. Sarah D

    Happy Independence Day! I enjoyed this post, John, so thank you. I have been guilty of worrying about the opinions of others too often and allowed this to colour my behaviour. It’s like a prison sentence. Trying hard to break free after 45 years!!! Thankfully my son seems to have his own mind and agenda! School find this troublesome but he is his own person and I can’t take that away from him ☺️

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Sarah!

      I think most of us, at one time or another, as you put it, “have been guilty of worrying about the opinions of others too often and allowed this to colour (our) behaviour.” So many of these youngsters, like your son, are wise old souls. They remember, at an early age, who they are and why they’re here. I think they’re great teachers for us “adults.”

  4. jean

    Happy Independence Day John
    July 1st was Canada Day, our birthday.

    When you understand yourself, trust that you are the perfect being you are you don’t have to agree with anyone. You just have to be your peaceful, intelligent self and that will seep into the atmosphere, slowly helping others to be the incredible, independent creatures they are.

    love and hugs

  5. Annie

    Sure enjoyed watching the interview with J.S. and Nicola Sturgeon. Independence is a beautiful thing in so many ways. On this day, in particular, I feel a deep love for all and a gratitude to live in this country, Home of the Brave and Home of the Free. Whatever divisiveness plaguing us at the moment, I pray we can get through it and be united and at peace once again. Thank you, John.

  6. Barbara

    How I wish we could declare our independence! One day, one fine day we will. 🙂
    Saor Alba Gu Brath,
    Love to all and happy Independence celebrations,
    Barbara x

    • John Cali

      And indeed you will, Barbara. I just saw today that Nicola Sturgeon is threatening another independence referendum.

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