How To Overcome Your Fear of Death by John Cali and Spirit

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Forgiveness is the means by which the fear of death is overcome….Forgiveness lets the body be perceived as what it is—a simple teaching tool to be laid by when learning is complete, hardly changing him who learns at all. A Course in Miracles

God is all that is. We are all God.God Is All That Is

Last week someone I’ve known many years killed himself. The details are not important. But our perception of those details, and of the death itself, requires some soul-searching.

Our society assumes it is natural for us to fear death—no matter how, when, where, why it occurs. After all, conventional wisdom suggests death is the end of us—THE END. We are no more.

Those of you reading this probably do not believe death is the end of us. Yet we fear it. Why? And why do we criticize and judge those who commit suicide?

My spirit guides have said every death is a suicide. If we believe we create our own realities, then we must believe we also create the timing and manner of our “death.” There are no victims, there are no villains. There are only creators and co-creators.

We are all God. God is all that is. God is eternal. We are eternal. There is no end. There is no death. There is only life eternal.

I’m travelling as I write this. So I thought it would be a good time to review a post we wrote a while back, Is Life ALWAYS Worth Living?


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20 Responses

  1. Hans

    During the last months my health is detoriating, in the sense that breathing becomes more and more difficult. And yes, because of that I am from time to time frightened that I maybe will not be able to reach the end of this year. On the other hand, medically speaking, ‘everyting’ is being done to not let that happen.

    Please understand me correctly. I certainly am not afraid to die. In know that once I will be on the other side, I do not have to worry about these things any more. What I’m afraid of is getting less and less air so that the end is going to be quite somber, so to speak.

    Furthermore there is the question of who do I leave behind. My wife, children, grandchildren, family friends. That worries me horribly.

    Maybe all the worrying is going to be in vain. But then, here I am, somehow uncertain about what wil unfold itself in the near future.

    • John Cali

      I am so sorry to hear that, Hans! I had no idea, even though we’ve known each other many years.

      But I am glad to hear you’re getting the medical help you need. I know you’re not afraid to die, and I completely understand you not wanting the end to be “somber.” None of us want that. I also understand your deep concern for your family.

      I’ll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. I’ll also add you to our healing list.

  2. Ron B.

    Why do we fear death? We do because we are uncertain.
    There is also another reason. We have a built-in survival instinct.
    Why? Because it is productive. Productive for what? Evolving towards unconditional love. Why unconditional love? Because unconditional love is the opposite of unconditional fear. Unconditional love or even just plain old love has been found to be a condition which produces positive change and growth, expansion.

  3. Pat

    Thank you for this, John. I guess I’ve never thought of death in terms of forgiveness before as noted from your quote from A Course of Miracles. Like most, I’ve also had a fear of death as I wrote about in one of the stories I contributed. It’s always been something I’ve wanted to distance myself from any way I possibly could.

    However, this summer has proven to present me with a number of things that Spirit has gently and lovingly been showing me in a different light and one of them is death. It’s not something my head understands but my heart tells me it was required.

    While my husband was in the hospital this summer, we had a doe give birth to twin fawns. Seems to be what the does in our neighborhood are doing this year as there are 2 other does with twins in the fields below. Back and forth between hospital visits and home, I kept the corral gates open and our dog on the leash whenever I let her out so mom and the babies would have freedom to move about and leave for the open fields.

    When I would see her, mom would be on the outside of the corral with the babies on the inside bleating for her. I assumed she was teaching them while staying close. I never thought after some time when I didn’t see them or her that I would find them both dead. I just assumed she had moved them. There were no signs of attack from a predator. I don’t know why she wouldn’t come in and feed them. Like I said, my head can’t understand it but trust Spirit and Nature knows.

    The night after my neighbor and I buried them she came in and I saw her where they were laid to rest. We made eye contact and I crumbled to the ground and cried asking for her forgiveness. I poured it all out with her. I don’t know why this happened and, in writing this, I can still feel what it felt like that night. What was interesting was how I felt when I found them that morning and the burial. I wasn’t panicking like I normally would or freaking out. There was a calm, necessary approach to doing what needed to be done.

    I’m real sensitive to energies and spirituality from childhood growing up with my grandmother who was comfortable with such things. I’ve always been drawn to it and interested in the supernatural but I’ve known I’ve had a great deal of fear at the same time. With my declaration this year “inviting the miraculous”, no doubt Spirit has taken me seriously and opening up realms beyond my imagination. I’m deeply grateful for the tender loving care in the process.

    • John Cali

      Thanks so much, Pat, for your deeply beautiful story!

      I agree with you — death is not something most of us understand with our heads, especially in this world where death is seen as defeat, failure, the end of us. But our spiritual beliefs and values, at least those of us on a conscious path of growth, teach us there is no death and there is nothing to fear in the illusion of death we’ve created.

      As Jesus says in A Course in Miracles, if we see everything through the eyes of God, then we see “reality” for what it truly is — an illusion, albeit one we created. For me, understanding that has removed the fear of death I used to have when I was younger. And it’s also given me greater compassion and understanding for those who fear death.

      As you say, when we invite miracles, Spirit opens us up to possibilities beyond our imaginations.

      I hope your husband has recovered well.

      Thanks again, Pat.

      • Pat

        Thank you for your kind words, John. I think, for me, when I can overcome my fear of connecting with the supernatural (in terms of what I used to think of as ghosts when I was a child) the fear of death will also dispel with a knowing like you have of it as an illusion. I feel it coming as I’m being gently led along this path.

        • John Cali

          You’re most welcome, Pat.

          I think you make an excellent point there — you reminded of the “ghosts” I used to see as a child, and into my teens. It was also then that I had the greatest fear of death. So there’s clearly a connection between scary supernatural experiences and the fear of death. At least that was my experience.

          I agree with you — Spirit is gently leading you on your path.

          • Pat

            I think it’s exactly as you say, John, like in your childhood and into your teens. I never quite put it together like that before but I’m beginning to understand. It’s comforting to know that Spirit knows the best way to get through to us.

          • John Cali

            Actually, Pat, I hadn’t put it together like that either until you gave me the reason to figure it. So thank YOU for helping me see it clearly now.

      • Pat

        And thank you for asking, John. My husband is doing much better and is on the mend. So much to be thankful for and happy to have him home.

  4. jean

    Death is a doorway as is life. Life and death are states of Beings. We are whether or not we are (seeming)alive or (seeming)dead. What lies beyond death’s door, no one knows for sure but if we look to our dreams, to our meditations, to our altered states of being we have an answer. Once we learn to trust our selves, love ourselves and trust in our own creativity and imagination we have the tools to understand our lives and realize we have even greater tools in our death.

    Laugh at death for all it is, is a different realm of our conscious intent. It is a stopping place, a resting place before we decide what more we want to do.

    love and hugs

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Jeannie. A Course in Miracles says it simply — death is an illusion we’ve created in our separation from God.

      Love and hugs,

      • Ron

        In what way do you think we are or can be separate from God?
        Is God not All That Is ?

        • John Cali

          We cannot be separate from God. We only think we can, thereby creating the illusion of separation.

          • Ron

            But we were created with the inability to remember that we are parts of God.
            That had to be done for a good reason since that is part of the rule set.
            Now if we are parts of God and we created this illusion of death then it must also stand that God created that illusion. Something seems to be a little confusing here. I understand that contrast is required as well as free will in order to enable us to create desires and improvements, new solutions and just plain more. Religions like to teach us that we have fallen, that we have become not acceptable to God. That is what I am reminded of when I read a comment which says that in our sleep (lack of consciousness) we have messed up and form the illusion of death. We say ” As above, so below.” and I say “As below so above” as an extension. We know our bodies die (below) and so it follows that above can also die. So much for immortality.
            Okay I am joking around a little. I don’t know what got into me. Oh, I remember now, it was my failing to complete the first ten levels of Paxon without an error repeatedly, just like in life.
            Hugs, Ron

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