The Blame Game by John Cali

The word “blame” is used almost constantly in the news media, in government circles, even in churches. And certainly among individuals. Most of us have played the blame game at one time or another.

Here’s Spirit.


This whole issue of blame is a diversion. A diversion many humans immerse themselves in.

Why do we say it’s a diversion? Well, because it keeps you from taking responsibility for your lives. And it keeps you from owning your power.

The practical effect of blame is it shifts responsibility to where it does not belong. Examples:

“I’m such an unhappy person because my mother abused me.”

“I drink too much because I have such a lousy marriage.”

“I’m not making as much money as I should because my boss doesn’t appreciate me.”

“I don’t speak to my neighbors because people around here are so unfriendly.”

In blaming anyone or anything for whatever has gone wrong in your lives, you are abdicating your responsibility and your power. You are acknowledging you have no control over your own lives. Basically, you’re casting yourselves in the role of the victim.

Any imperfection you are seeing in another is only and always a reflection of the imperfection you see in yourselves.

What are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree with Spirit? Please comment below.

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5 Responses

  1. John Cali

    Thank you very much, Chris. We appreciate your kind words. (And your English is fine.)


  2. Anonymous

    Today I took my bike and went for a ride and started to think that, Hei! This is my world(my reality).
    Everybody and everything is like I want them to be.(In my reality)
    I don't need to control other people order to feel good. Only myself and the rest takes care of itself. That gave me feeling of power for a while, cause I have practiced a lot of that ''victim'' vibration. But I hope that step by step I can replace my thoughts with better ones.
    Anyway…John and Spirit, I want to thank you for Your great work what You do with The Spirit and also for being a part of ''Tuning In – Spirit Channelers in America'' Great information.
    And excuse my poor english if It's hard to understand.



  3. John Cali

    Thank you, Michoko, for your comments. I'm delighted the article was timely for you.


  4. Michoko

    Thank you very much for this article! Perfect synchronicity for the situation I have to deal with right now in my life. And I agree totally.

    Much love to you, and keep up the wonderful work!

  5. Anonymous

    Playing the "blame game" is like passing the buck…it's easy to do, and a very hard cycle to break, once you get into it.

    Everyone, has laid claim to being a victim…but the buck stops with taking full responsibility for your own funky deals.

    In starting to live an inspired life, it is possible to never have to play the game at all…

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