The Hidden Power of Forgiveness

In today’s partisan, chaotic world, we rush to judgment and are slow to forgive.

In Tina Spalding’s book, Jesus: My Autobiography, Jesus says “Judgment is the biggest crime that can be committed against yourself and against others.”

How often do we even notice when we are judging? In our opinion, not often.


One of the human traits we in spirit find fascinating is your reluctance to forgive.

When you perceive, in your limited vision, another has harmed you, you often focus on the “harm” and not on your part in creating that harm.

And so you often find yourselves holding onto grudges and bitterness.

Often, that holding on will literally eat away at your body. Hence you have all these dreaded diseases running rampant on your planet today.

Chief among those, arguably the worst, is cancer. And of course, there are many others.

Cancer literally eats away your physical bodies. If you happen to be one of those suffering from cancer—or any other dis-ease—we would ask you to do a bit of self-examination.

There is no dis-ease today that is not caused by you. Most times, the true cause is your unwillingness to forgive. We will address this topic again soon. But between now and then, we ask you to do some really deep self-examination.

Who, what, and why in your lives are you unwilling to forgive?

Take some time to do this self-examination. If you are suffering from any disease, discomfort, or dread in your lives, it is for one reason only: UNFORGIVENESS.

In this self-examination, you will discover the hidden power of forgiveness. Therein lies your key to total healing—physical, emotional, spiritual.

We’ll talk more again soon about forgiveness.

Copyright © 2022 by John Cali and Berna Copray
Edited by Berna Copray


This video’s title might surprise you: The Time When Buddha Could Not Forgive. But the powerful lesson here is even more surprising.

Please share your thoughts with us in the comments below.


4 Responses

  1. Steve Small

    Hi John! Thanks as always for your posts. They’re always a little shot of wisdom and joy. But this one really resonates with me. I went through through 3 cancer diagnoses in 4 years. Which I don’t like to bring up unless I’m putting a positive spin on it. Now there were many suspects as to who was the guilty party responsible. I came to realize that I was that guilty party. Stress, anger, unforgiving victim. The beauty is that it was the spark of my spiritual journey. Spirit put things in my path so that I could learn forgiveness (including you). We now have a great relationship that continues to grow. A quote from Olivia Newton John really stuck with me; “…it was a gift…not to sweat the small stuff…” The world around me hasn’t changed as much as my perspective of it. Cancer is difficult, but it does not have to be a death sentence. Physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Been 9 years since my first diagnosis, feeling great, and the future is bright.

    • John Cali

      Hi Steve,

      Thanks very much for your kind words. And thank you for sharing your powerful, touching story.

      Over the years, several folks close to me have had cancer. In hindsight, I can seen it was their lack of forgiveness (including toward themselves) that was a major factor in their illness.

      Spirit has said over the years illness is always a reminder that we need to work on ourselves. That can be a tough lesson to master. But you have obviously mastered it. I’m sure you’re a great inspiration to those around you.

      Thanks again, Steve.

      God bless you!
      John and Berna

  2. Carol Ann Kilgore

    This is especially timely for me and my husband as he is in the process of recovering from Cancer treatment and it isn’t going well for him. I know that there have been many people in his life that he has not forgiven and holds onto the offenses they caused, from his viewpoint. I can see several qualities in him that probably led to those offenses. No one is completely blameless. I have forwarded this message for him to read and we’ll see how it goes. As a side note I think this will resonate with him because he identifies as a Tibetan Buddhist.

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Carol Ann, for sharing what must be a difficult time for you and your husband. We’ll keep you both in our thoughts and prayers.

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