What You Ought To Know about Loneliness

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We are all so much together, but we are dying of loneliness. ~ Albert Schweitzer


You would think in this super-connected world we live in no one would feel lonely. Communication is literally instantaneous, even across thousands of miles. And yet there is an epidemic of loneliness plaguing so many people all across the globe.

One of our readers wrote me recently. With her permission, I want to share with you part of her letter:

I’ve been thinking of our last conversation with Spirit and how you told me I already know everything.

More things have come to me that I’m already certain of. I can’t really tell anybody because he/she won’t understand or believe me. This leads to a feeling of being separate, which I know we are not.

How does one cope with the intellectual understanding that we are never alone, we are one, but that it can be lonely here?


While “intellectual understanding” has its purpose, it is not the right tool to help you understand loneliness. Your mind (or intellect) is limited. Its foundation is the beliefs you hold, or the faith you carry.

Again, belief and faith serve a purpose. But they are not the tools you need to deal with feelings of separation and loneliness.

Knowing and certainty are the tools you need to deal with the seeming separation, the loneliness—or any other challenges your physical world hands you.

Of course, this requires a strong spiritual foundation. It requires a deep knowing and unwavering certainty that it is impossible for you to be truly separate or alone. You are never separate, never alone.

God is your Source (capital “S”). You came from God and have never truly left Him/Her. It only seems you have. That’s part of the “package” you agreed to when you incarnated.

But now it’s time for all of you on a determined spiritual path (that’s you if you’re reading this) to acknowledge who you are (God in human form) and why you’re here (to help others know they are also God in human form).

We are not denying or rejecting that you can sometimes feel alone, separate, lonely. Your modern world and your ego certainly do all in their power to encourage those feelings. But just know it’s all an illusion.

The remedy for all this? Do whatever it takes to nurture yourselves in every way, on every level—physical, mental, emotional and, above all, spiritual.

Choose whatever ways feel right and good for you—not for anyone else, just you.

We’ve said this many times before, but quiet time spent alone and in solitude is powerful. Meditation is one way. Being among animals is another. Being in nature is yet another.

As you nurture yourselves with these spiritual tools, you will find a deep abiding sense of peace and quiet within. The peace and quiet has always been there. But after childhood, most humans have forgotten all about it.

That peace, that quiet within is your link with God, with the divine. It is God—you are God.

When you know that fact of life, when you are certain of it, you will also know it is impossible for you to ever be alone, separate or lonely.


Related posts:

There Is No Difference Between You and God
Oneness & Illusion of Separation


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12 Responses

  1. George

    Dear John, The discussion of loneliness reminds me of the difference between people of introverted and extroverted personalities. The former enjoy doing things alone and take jobs doing things alone. I, on the other hand, much prefer being with friendly others. Fortunately, I have been able to find things to do alone sometimes that enable me to be temporarily content, especially writing messages to others. Love, George

    • John Cali

      Thanks, George. I think there are advantages to both — introverts and extroverts. You seem to have found an ideal middle ground between the two. Love, John

  2. Dan

    I noticed there are two types of loneliness being discussed here – the one your reader spoke of is the loneliness from having a knowledge which other people can’t relate to – the second is not feeling comfortable with being alone. In someways they are the same I suppose.

    If we really believe our own knowledge we don’t need to have other people understand us completely – it is enough to share what seems valuable as it relates to the conversation at hand.

    We have all had experience with people proselytizing – trying to get someone to understand something they are either not ready for or just simply doesn’t resonate with them is not a good use of time.

    I suspect that not being lonely is highly linked to being able to listen – both to other people and the quiet of one’s alone time.

    As always – thanks for the article and the forum.

    • John Cali

      Thanks again, Dan.

      I agree — the two types of loneliness are basically the same. The root of loneliness is that perception, really a mis-perception (an illusion), that we are separate.

      And, as you say, being able to listen to others quietly, and to ourselves in the stillness, is the key to not being lonely — to being fully connected to all that is.

  3. Mikala

    I just wanted to say that I totally understand the part where there is no (human) to speak to because they won’t necessarily have any clue of what you are speaking of. (Or they might become angry) That is a feeling of being alone, when you really aren’t.

    At the same time, communing with the beings that are across the vail is wonderful and full of knowledge and understanding, your time is somewhat limited.

    I find that meditation, prayers, acknowledging all the Divine Laws and Light Rays, and more, require more “time” than I have in a day. I’m still struggling with that, and I’m retired. It’s amazing how busy retirement is. (grin) But if you follow the instructions, you are expected to spend time being of service to humanity. “Lord, let me be an instrument of your peace.”

    We are never alone. NEVER I think it is just our adjustment toward Divine Human that gets in the way. Putting the two together comfortably is not an easy adjustment.

    Love to all,

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Mikala, for your comments.

      I agree it can be challenging to find time for all that — meditation, prayer, etc. I can’t fully explain this, but I’ve made my primary purpose in life to simply be of service. Or, as you quoted St. Francis, to “be an instrument of your peace.” Somehow, since I made that commitment, magically, I find the time for all that, and more. It’s as if time has somehow expanded.

  4. Ron B.

    Fantastic reading, John, but, lol, could it be possible that the heading quote ¨ We are all so much together, but we are dying of loneliness. ~ Albert Schweitzer¨ was not originally in English and could have become ambiguous with that translation?

    I understand, I believe, lol, what he meant. Still since he went and spent so much time in African jungles, I cannot be sure.

    All negative emotions are rooted in fear and loneliness is only one of those.
    Actually evolution demands of us that we congregate and so it is possible that the feeling of loneliness is simply an unconscious nudge, on the instinctive side of things. Often it is habitual like all the other negative emotions but at its roots we will always find fear if we care to search. After a while of doing this searching one can easily have that positive action also become habitual and so it therefore become easier to find joy.

    • John Cali

      Thanks for the comments, Ron. I don’t know the story behind the Schweitzer quote. But it makes sense to me the way it’s shown.

      I think it’s always easy to find joy, or happiness. It’s just a matter of deciding to be joyful, or happy. We’re in control.

  5. Margaret Bullock

    Thank you so much for this and for all the messages you send through. During my husband’s illness I started to work seriously on being present in the moment and would make time for myself to do this (not easy) and found a book that I think one of your readers recommended very helpful. The Presence Process by Michael Brown. It really helped me to cope during a very challenging year. Now the journey contunues following Max’s passing and the pain of grief is overwhelming at times but I can definitely feel those moments of surrender by the peace in my heart and feeling Max with me still. Last night was one such time. I was listening to music we both loved and the tears were flowing but then I felt as if I was floating…my emotional body just let go so to speak…and the music then felt like a spiritual lullaby. I often find your messages come in feelings before the words actually arrive! How good is that.
    Thank you so much for your gift.
    Love Margaret x

    • John Cali

      Thank you very much, Margaret, for sharing. I’m delighted the book has helped you so much. I haven’t read it yet, but it seems to be a popular book.

      I know you’ve been through a lot of challenges. But you’re a magnificent role model for so many, especially those dealing with the death of a loved one. Your strength and courage are an inspiration to others.


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