What’s Wrong with Me? by John Cali

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An old friend (she’s not old, but we’ve been friends many years) wrote me an email recently. With her permission, here it is:

Hi John,

It’s been a while, I know, hope this email finds you well. Am still enjoying your newsletters and blogs muchly…

There is something I’ve pondered for a while now regarding Law Of Attraction, whenever you have the time I would really appreciate your insight. Feeling major failure here….been on this path for quite a few years and still not manifesting my “deepest desires”….

….I’ve set intentions for desirable circumstances to manifest. They have not. Is it just a matter of mismatched vibration/frequency OR the timing isn’t right yet OR is it not in alignment with my highest good? Again, any insight would greatly appreciated.

WHATS WRONG WITH ME!! Had to express that sentiment, cause that’s what I am feeling……


Here’s Spirit’s reply:

Everything and everyone in your life experience is a reflection of you. You are one with it all.

If you want to draw to yourself someone or something different from what you now have, you must change yourself first.

For example, if you want more financial abundance, you must first create that abundance within yourself.


By believing you are already abundant. Everything you desire is within you.

Once you realize that, what you desire must flow to you—if you simply get out of the way.

Often, however, you block it with your doubts, questions, feelings of unworthiness, etc.

The solution is to know you’ve done all you need to. You’ve done your work. Now let the universe do its work.

Stay peaceful and happy, as much as you can, in the present moment. Then what you want and have asked for will flow to you without effort and with ease.

You have not made any mistakes. Everything in your life is as it should be. Love yourself unconditionally. Live your life fearlessly.

All is well.


My spirit guides say there are no mistakes, only experiences which provide us opportunities for growth. And growth should be fun—and, at times, funny. Enjoy this short Abraham video about a funny mistake Esther Hicks made:

Related links:
You Are the Source
You Always Get What You Ask for Unless….
For Sale by Owner: Are You Getting What You Want Out of Life?
Law of Attraction


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6 Responses

  1. Micki

    Hi John,

    What a great post and so very very true…thank you…Life always so good when we are happy and full of the joys.
    I wish everyone happiness and joy.
    Love and hugs,

  2. Joseph k

    Thanks for the post
    I’ve thought and gone into this a lot
    The law of attraction is no longer a secret but it is a mindbender
    Simply because I changes everything ,in our worldview and the more
    Understanding of The better
    From what I’ve read and figured our
    It’s basically like a pot of boiling water, here’s always something heating up gradually
    Beneath the surface until the pressure builds up and it boils then spills over and you know all about it, I hint that’s how things manifest an unfold in our lives an world
    For instance there’s a constant niggle in us or h world situation, say youth deliuency and unemployment ,building and festering discontent an malaise unil it finally explodes under the right or wrong circumstances ,fo instanc in England a few year ago the widespread riots and looting of bored out of heir heads ignored uncared for out of It youth
    Then the next stage is h media picks up onit and soon the hol roles talking about it
    Social media,mainstream,radion tv on an on

    Another analogy is there ar two boxes where your tnoughts go into , one positive, another negative , and eventually one or the other overflows/ manifests -boom like that!
    Also in basic terms your senses/brain filter out all th data/input present according to your consciousness , for instance right know I’m focused on writing this, I ignore useless trivial information say on this screen or around me
    Basically you can only focus or filter so much at a time
    Otherwise you’d overload,your nervous system wouldn’t be able tocope processing It all
    It’s called latent inhibition ,and plays a part in neurosis and genius
    So neurosis can just be seen as overload
    Too much coming in all. Once for he body an brain to handle
    Anyway we selectively take in information and everything is information an energy, various forms of sound and light
    Which are frequencies and vibrations
    Which we tune into through the law of attraction which makes the world go round essentially
    Simply put its like a tv or radio where once we know how and understand it, we can operate the technology of he universe to selectivly tun into goodness and phase out all th negative static and rubbish
    It’s taken me a while to figure out the whole law of attraction phenomen ,you really do need good guides in all this
    I’ve gone from niggling ‘there’s something going on here’ then ‘ the secret’ then Abraham hicks
    Gradually delving into. Whole world of this information
    Also I’ve found out some interesting stuff
    Ask,believe,open to receive and grab it then it comes floating by or hits you in the face
    The tuning in book goes into ll this in different ways
    Just proves the best sources and books are usually not the ‘ hey look at me, buy me’ ones
    But the gentle guidance from higher consciousness
    Focused more on serving and providing quality and use
    Than me,me,me moneymaking egomania
    Anyhow best wishes and enjoy the enjoyment!

  3. Damian

    Hello John, Spirit and your friend,
    I know exactly how that feels. I’ve been listening and reading Abraham for about a year and a half now. I tried to ‘fix’ my marriage using what I learned from Abraham. In hindsight, I see what I had done. My energy was split between wanting to continue my marriage in a much better way and wanting it to end. It ended, to which, now, I understand was what I was wanting ‘more’ of. I’ve gone through the emotional gambit. It hasn’t been easy, and ‘What is wrong with me?’ has crossed my mind many times. Once the rollercoaster evened out some, I began to realize that nothing is wrong with me. I am me. I cannot be anyone else, and I cannot make anyone else happy, except myself. I have been practicing just that and things are beginning to change for me. I’m excited and a bit nervous. Maybe that is why things are happening slowly. But, the main point is, it is changing for me. I know, with every fiber of my being, that life will never be the same for me. I can’t go back, and I don’t want to. I want so much for myself, but mainly, I just want to feel joyful, happy, and creative, and boy oh boy, I have a creative and imaginative side.
    A quote from Abraham that has helped me out in more ways than I can say: “I am the attractor of my experience. As I look for positive aspects and make an effort to find good feeling thoughts, I will hold myself in a place of positive attraction and what I want will come faster.” Heh, Abraham likes to say, “You have to be Happy in order to be Happy.” There is the key. Make an ‘Effort’ to find ‘Good Feeling’ thoughts. The rest will follow, flow, come to you.
    May the leaves of the forest shade you. Damian.

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