You Can Grow Older Gracefully and Still Have Fun Along the Way by John Cali


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We live in a society today obsessed with youth and physical beauty. And, in my opinion, a society with too little regard for the wisdom and experience of older folks.

Society considers growing older a curse none of us can escape—unless we die young. We’re driven desperately to find something—anything—that will keep us young. The list is virtually endless—plastic surgery, injections, drugs, etc.

It never occurs to most of us that growing older can actually be fun. It doesn’t have to be a drag.

Some of the older folks I’ve known over the years believe, and I know it’s a cliché, you’re as young as you feel. But the reason it’s a cliché is because it’s true. And those folks know how to have fun.

I’ll always remember my mother and her two sisters, my aunts, in their later years. Two lived well into their 80s, and one into her 90s. In retirement they lived near each other, and for most of their later years, they lived independently. They were very active—with swimming, walking, socializing with their friends, being active in their church community, etc. They knew how to have fun.

When our son was young we’d visit Mom and her sisters several times a year. They would sometimes run us younger folks ragged with their active lifestyles.

Here are some of Spirit’s thoughts on aging, in no particular order:

  • Humans have the power to alter time. Not just the perception of time, but time itself.
  • Therefore, it is possible to slow the aging process, or even stop or reverse it.
  • You are already beautiful and lovable, just as you are.
  • No one, nothing can make you happy because happiness is always within you.
  • Happiness has nothing to do with how beautiful your bodies are, especially by Hollywood’s impossible standards of beauty.
  • It is not inevitable that you will deteriorate as you move through the years.
  • Your physical bodies are such magnificent mechanisms. Most of you neither understand nor appreciate your bodies. You do not see them as we in spirit do.
  • Even many of your scientists say your bodies are capable of living far longer than what you consider a “normal” lifespan. Few of you ever realize that capability.
  • Your bodies are engineered to live far longer than you believe possible. And to live the entire time in a state of perfect physical health.
  • You have somehow been convinced to believe your bodies must inevitably deteriorate with the years. Most of you believe you have to die of “something.”
  • If you expect your bodies to fall apart with the years, they will—because you are all powerful creators, because you create what you focus mostly on.
  • It is entirely within your power to move through the years—you cannot avoid that—but without deteriorating.
  • It is entirely within your power to die in a state of perfect health. A state of feeling good, feeling joyful, at the peak of perfection.
  • You can live a joyful, abundant life of many years. Then, when you decide you’ve done it all, seen it all, you can choose to move on without pain, sorrow, or sickness.
  • You do not need the “excuse” of deterioration or dis-ease to move on to your next adventure whenever you wish.
  • Your physical death, no matter how you have lived your physical life, is a re-birth into light and love. Always.


Here’s a great video of some older folks having fun:

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11 Responses

  1. Chuck

    wow this is great article and i resonate with it…
    few yrs back i was more than 40 lbs over weight… and later lost all that.. right now i look the best since 7-8 yrs.. .i feel i have gone back in time… even phsyically.. i have been the fittest ever since i do intense workouts which came as inspiration and not to get me to look young etc… growing up my this age i thought ife is over.. but right now i am at my best ever… so i was proven wrong by myself … lol

  2. Tom

    Excellent article, I’m glad we finally start getting messages about rejuvenating 🙂

    Thanks for sharing John, I’d love to hear Spirit talk about how to grow a younger body!

  3. Mikala

    I find it immensely fun, entertaining, and with a power of complete freedom. I’m 70 this July and am in perfect health (just had check up), strong (am helping my son move into a new house), do all my own work inside and outside my home, including shoveling tons of snow during the winter, and am having fun with the younger ones by using “age” as an excuse when necessary. grin

    I’m taking University classes I never had time for which didn’t fit in my major and minor. I’ve knitted and crocheted all the clothing etc. my first grandchild will need, and then some, a complete layette. I’m walking or jogging a minimum of 2 miles a day. I have a veggie garden in the summer, and pick up any project that interests me. I’m in heaven. And, I have a very full and wonderful spiritual life.

    Yeah, I’d say it’s good!

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Mikala. You certainly have a full and wonderful life — I wish there were a lot more folks like you.

    • Chuck

      Wow Mikala!! you are a superwoman!! i have to model you when as i grow older 🙂

  4. beachdrifter

    John, I love those quotes from Spirit!

    Also, the Abraham video that Barbara linked to is great, and I had not heard that exchange before. If anyone knows which workshop it is from, let me know!

    “You have somehow been convinced to believe your bodies must inevitably deteriorate with the years. Most of you believe you have to die of “something.””

    Yeah, “somehow”. Actually, I know exactly how. All I had to do was observe what was happening to my closest relatives. Even if no one had ever talked to me about any of that, that was impossible to miss. And then of course, the more people you come into contact with, the more you read…it just stacks up. And it’s pretty convincing, because it’s ubiquitous (unless you live by yourself in a cave somewhere).

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Beachdrifter. I had not heard the Abraham video discussion either before Barbara found it. I agree with you — it can be challenging to go against the mass consciousness.

  5. Barbara

    Well, it’s “funny” you talked about this today, John. “Coincidentally” I posted a brilliant discussion by Abraham on healing, cell regeneration and the importance of getting out of your body’s way on my blog today!

    Honestly everyone, we didn’t plan this 🙂

    As you know, John, the whole raison d’etre of my work is to support people in releasing resistance and fear, coming to peace with their bodies and whatever “ails” it, thereby allowing it to heal itself.

    You can see the video here:

    Barbara x

    • John Cali

      Thank you very much, Barbara. I’ve watched the Abraham video on your site. It’s very powerful and uplifting.

      I would urge everyone who reads this to go to Barbara’s site, read her brief post, and watch the video.

      Love, John

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