You Never Lose Those You Love by John Cali

I’ve taken that title from words my spirit guides have been using for years—usually when they’re talking to someone about the death of a loved one.

Here are some of their thoughts.


  • Death is not the end of you. It is only a new beginning.
  • Death is not the end of love. It is the beginning of renewed love.
  • Death is not serious. Life is not serious.
  • Life, whether you are “dead” or “alive,” is supposed to be fun.
  • Dying is the easiest thing you will ever do, as you’ve had lots of practice through countless lifetimes.
  • You have no beginning, no end. You are eternal.
  • Your loved ones, “dead” or “alive,” are always with you. They too are eternal.
  • You never lose those you love.
  • There is no death.
  • All is well.

P.S. Not only do we not lose those we love when they die, but we never lose them in life either. Here’s the heartwarming, touching story of Marina Abramovic and Ulay. They are both artists who met, fell in love, and worked together for years. Then they went their separate ways.

In 2010 Marina was doing a performance, during which she spent one minute of silent eye contact with a series of strangers who sat in front of her. Ulay was there that day. Enjoy this short video:


Related links:
Beyond the Veil: Life’s Other Side

Death of a Dog
Death of a Friend
He Never Said Goodbye


Do you believe you never lose those you love? Does Marina’s and Ulay’s story touch you? Please share your thoughts and comments with us below.

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6 Responses

  1. Susan

    Wonderful video! Also, a very good reminder of how powerful our body language is. Thanks,

  2. Sarah Drury

    Thanks for sharing this video John. I wasn’t familiar with marina and ulays’ work but found the video very moving. I then learnt more about their art and that when the parted ways years earlier they walked the wall of china starting at opposite points and then when they met in the middle they said goodbye. So to see the way they were briefly reunited was so touching and very powerful.
    It’s true, even if a loved one leaves physically they are still present in our hearts and memories. And if they come back physically, everything floods back as though they were never not present.
    It’s amazing that we have memories, they’re like a direct line to our non physically present loved ones.

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Sarah. I had known about about their walk across the Great Wall — all 2,500 miles! But I didn’t mention it in the post. As you said, it was a touching and powerful scene in the video.

  3. Tiat

    As you say, death is an illusion. The only place a loved one has ever really existed is in your heart. And there is only one entity………you.

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