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We are often urged to follow our hearts. But how many of us do it consistently?

In my own personal experience, and in talking with others about their experiences, I find two significant blocks to following our hearts.

First, we’re too easily swayed by the opinions of others.

Second, we do not trust ourselves and our own inner guidance.

Here are some thoughts from Spirit.


Many of you were taught, as little children, not to follow your hearts. Instead, you were told others’ opinions mattered more than your own. And you carried that perspective with you from the innocence of childhood into the forgetfulness of adulthood.

As you grew in years and physical maturity, you forgot the wisdom of your child-self. Your “authority” became whatever other people’s opinions were. Those opinions were often embodied, and even formalized, in many different ways—in your religions, governments, educational systems, and so on.

You will never, ever find any higher or better or wiser guidance than your own inner voice—or as you sometimes say, that “still, small voice within.”

The opinions of others do not matter. We are not saying you should never listen respectfully to others. But we are saying you should always run their opinions through the “filter” of your own inner guidance.

Trust your feelings—they are your clearest form of communication between you and your higher self, between you and God.

One individual standing alone and free of the opinions of others can make a huge difference.

By making your inner guidance your highest, best, and final authority, you will have released yourselves from the prison of other people’s opinions.

Always follow your heart.


Adapted from Spirit Oracle Cards by John Cali, Frederic Calendini, and Stephanie Quesada (Great Western Publishing, 2013)


I watch a lot of videos to find the ones that fit our posts best. This, in my opinion, is one of the most inspiring, uplifting of those I’ve seen:

Related links:
Does It Matter What Other People Say or Think About You?
Opinions: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
Other People’s Opinions
A Blink of Eternity


Do you allow the opinions of others to make you doubt your own inner guidance? What can you do to change that? Please share your thoughts and comments with us below.

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About John Cali
John Cali is a writer, blogger, and channel for a group of spirit guides. His next book is Real Answers to Life’s Pesky Questions: Conversations With Spirit, Book 1. John lives in northwestern Wyoming. Sign up for his newsletter here.