How Can Anyone Be Happy In This Confusing, Chaotic World? by John Cali

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Many of us measure happiness by external criteria—how much money we have, what kind of house we live in, how many friends we have, etc. But those things can, and will, change. Then we’re unhappy.

The money, the house, the friends—those are the “reasons” we use to be happy. But they are never the cause of our happiness. So what is the real cause of happiness?

US President Abraham Lincoln said “A man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be.”

Can it really be that simple—we just need to choose to be happy?

Here are some thoughts from Spirit:

The only “reason” you “need” to be happy is to know all is well. It has never been otherwise. It will never be otherwise. Despite appearances. Despite what your human minds and your physical senses “see.” Anything other than well-being is an illusion.

And so, you might ask, “What, then, is really real?” Love is real. Appreciation is real. Joy is real. Passion is real. Happiness is real. Health is real. Well-being is real. And anything other than what is real is just a passing illusion. Sickness, poverty, “bad” relationships, death, war, and all disharmony and dis-ease—these are all illusions, albeit illusions you created.

Your natural state is that of well-being. Happiness is natural. Joy is natural. Good health is natural. Abundance is natural. All the good things you’ve ever wanted in your lives—these are natural. They are your birthright as a human being, as the incarnation of God in a physical vessel.

Happiness is your natural state of being. When you remember that you’ll be happy. Happiness is up to you. You do not need a reason to be happy.

Adapted from Spirit Oracle Cards by John Cali, Frederic Calendini, and Stephanie Quesada (Great Western Publishing, 2013)


 Here’s a delightful, lighthearted take on happiness:



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Happiness Revisited
Living With Pain or Joy: It’s Your Choice


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4 Responses

  1. jerry

    Hi John,

    Over the years, I’ve learned that I am the sole resident of my reality. Not one other person or spirit knows what is best for me, that is MY job…hahaha. You can never be sad enough so that no one else will be sad.

    Happiness, on the other hand, is living from the heart, expansive, energizing, nonjudgmental, inclusive, not being like anyone else,….etc, etc. As Abraham says, ‘it’s living in the vortex’.

    When you start your morning by visualizing and then feeling how you want your day to be, the universe must respond. Doubt not and it will be so! Put it to the test and you will see a new vitality that will blow your mind…love to all!

    Thanks so much John and Spirit!

    • John Cali

      Hi Jerry,

      Thanks very much for your wise and perceptive comments. I love what you said — “…I am the sole resident of my reality.” If everyone understood that, we’d have far less chaos on the planet.


  2. Chuck

    It seems like things have gotten better ever since i started knowing about Spiritual way and i have had better faith in following Spirits advise as i have begun to experience it in my life.
    Want to keep continuing the journey.

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