Are You Challenged By Change? by John Cali

When I was younger I dreaded change of any kind, big or small. I felt threatened by it, as if my world was about to come crashing down around me. I deal with change much more easily now. In fact, I welcome it.

Many years ago I had a secretary who, when confronted with change, would be almost literally paralyzed with fear. She just couldn’t function. She was an extreme case, but not all that unusual among some folks I know.

This year of 2012 has been a time of huge changes for all of us, individually and as a global family. And it’s not over yet. My spirit guides say the coming years will be easier, especially for those on a conscious path of spiritual growth.

Here are some little tidbits of wisdom my guides have offered over the years:

  • Change is not a bad thing—it’s not the demon many humans see it as.

  • Change is a cleansing, a clearing of old ways and old energy that no longer serve you.
  • Change is the only constant in life.
  • You cannot live your life without changing, because change equals growth. And you cannot not grow.
  • All change, no matter how you view it, carries you to a higher vibration.
  • Fear of change is fear of the unknown, fear of uncertainty.
  • Certainty is a myth. It does not exist.
  • Embrace uncertainty with love. Love the uncertainties of life—love the changes. You’ll have more inner peace, and more fun.
  • You will never find safety in stability, an unchanging reality. You will find only stagnation. You seek safety in the very place you will never find it.
  • Safety and security are within you. Everything you desire is within you.
  • You are whole. You are one. You are God. That is the one thing that will never change.

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Change, Fear, and Futility
Changes: The Circle Remains Unbroken


What about you—do you feel challenged or even threatened by change? Please share your thoughts with us below.

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11 Responses

  1. Rene

    Ahh yes change!! I used to dread change. Creature of old habits. But once I understood what a blessing changes that happened are. I started to be at ease with the idea of change. After all what would we have learned without change. Love and Peace. Rene

  2. Jerry

    As I looked back on my life, I see the type of environment I chose to be born into. I scratch my head now and wonder how I ever made it out. I lived with fear from my parents and my brothers and sisters who were very into duality. I can smile now, but at the time, I was seeing it as so good.

    What I have learned over the many years, is that, to get out of the fear mode, for me, was to become the ‘observer’ of what was happening in my life. I just looked at it at face value, no judgement at all. At that point of being the observer, I could allow myself to accept my life as it is and now empowered to change it. If you cannot be the observer, I feel, then you now know you are still stuck with judgement about yourself. The observer sees the world only through their own eyes, no one else’s. This is where the Seth books really helped me as Seth is quite the psychiatrist.

    When you get out of fear, then the love of self and all things will come pouring into your life because the fear is not stopping it. Live to love!!


    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Jerry, for your wise comments. Although I learned that concept — being the observer — years ago, it wasn’t until recently that I started practicing it. What a difference that made! Seth also helped me tremendously.


    • Martha

      I like what Jerry said.
      Just reading it gave me the feeling of being in the Observer mode.

      My brothermwho is an alcoholic, often repeats a wise piece of advice someone gave him once for,dealing with stressful situations:

      I always thought that was just another aspect of his infuriating fear infused alcoholic denial and refusal to step up to the plate and deal with life in a functional empowered way. (My heavy handed judgement….LOVE THE MAN, HATE THE DISEASE and what it did to our family…) But maybe there’s something wise going on I didnt see.

      I like to think there is a healthy balance between observing and engaging.
      Perhaps a visit to the Seth Books is in order!

      Anyway, thanks, Jerry!
      If I didnt know he was in Spirit, this could easily be Jerry Hicks talking!


  3. Martha

    When I’m in fear, projecting the past onto the future ( ego mind, trying to control everything in an attempt to stay safe) change is scary.
    When Im in love, I’m present, centered in the moment, and in the ONENESS of all-that-is
    I feel safe and can trust that things are unfolding exactly as they should. I can flow with the changes and allow rather than trying to control outcomes.
    This means a conscious decision on my part to let go and let God.
    This is a practice that I get to CHOOSE, EVERY DAY, MOMENT BY MOMENT.
    Because I got infused with fear as a child, my survival habit became to try and control everythng so that I could feel safe. This is exhausting work!

    LETTING GO is so much easier, knowing I am safe in God.
    This feels alot better, and I can let myself and everyone else off the hook.
    Its a practice that I am recently bringing more awareness to.
    Compassion and unconditional love for the little one inside is the key for me.

  4. Marlene

    One of the most exciting times of my life was when I moved, with my husband and children, from one community to another hundreds of miles away. In the process we were also moving away from family, from familiar neighbourhoods, childhood friends, jobs and so forth. In our new location even what used to be everyday excursions suddenly were likely to lead to small adventures. I’d get lost going to the bank. I had to find new “favourite” grocery stores, register the kids in new schools, meet new neighbours and so forth. It was interesting, challenging, fun, and sometimes nerve wracking too.

    I balk against change for I am a person that finds comfort and peace in daily routine. Sometimes routine can get boring though and a bit of a shake up adds some spice.


  5. Mikala St. Germain

    Having no memory of living without change, I’m not the one to answer this question. smile
    However, I would very much dislike it if change were to stop. All you need to do is think of politics and the manner in which they use fear today. I would love that to change. Wars, genocides, constant unrest – oh, yes, I would like that to change. Hungry children and homeless people – just imagine the joy of that changing around the world.
    Ah, I think I see that all changing in the near future. It may be slow at times, but it is changing. So, I think I will be absolutely grateful for change, and maybe ask for more.

    Blessed Holidays to All,

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