The pursuit of happiness is a most ridiculous phrase; if you pursue happiness you’ll never find it. ~ C. P. Snow

Spielendes_KätzchenHappy Cat, by Loliloli

Happiness is an elusive pipe dream for so many. But that is completely the opposite of our natural state—which is happiness, peace, love, joy in every aspect of our earthly lives.

We were born happy. Did you ever see a depressed or unhappy baby or young child? These young ones still remember where they came from and who they are. But most adults have forgotten all that. It does not have to be this way.

I grew up in western New York State where the winters are long and cold, and grey skies predominate much of the rest of the year. A lot of folks there blame the weather if they’re feeling out of sorts.

I read an interesting article a couple weeks ago about a new study of how climate affects people’s moods. Paul Dolan, Professor of Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics, said the study showed levels of happiness were the same between people living in sunny climates and those living in cloudy climates.

There are, of course, other studies with different results. There’s even a name for the radical mood changes some folks experience, supposedly due to the weather. It’s called “seasonal affective disorder” or “SAD.” You’ve probably heard of it. We heard about it a lot back in New York.

But as Professor Dolan said, “If you want to be happier pay attention to the things that make you feel good.” My spirit guides have been saying that for years.

US President Abraham Lincoln put it another way:“A man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be.”

If we, as people on a deliberate, conscious path of spiritual growth, believe we create our realities, then we certainly create our happiness—or the lack of it.

If we’re chasing happiness, we’ll never find it—because we’re looking in all the wrong places. Happiness does not come to us from “out there.” It comes from within, and each of us has the power to choose happiness over unhappiness—no matter what our outer circumstances might be. It took me many years to realize that.

I remember the story of Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl. Dr. Frankl was a survivor of The Holocaust, having spent time in the Nazi death camp at Auschwitz. Obviously, most of us will never in this lifetime endure the horrors that he and millions of others did.

Dr. Frankl had an agreement with a friend, a fellow prisoner, in Auschwitz. Every day the two of them would get together and tell each other a joke or a funny story. He said the laughter brought respite from the grim horror all around them. And it helped them survive by finding a few brief moments of joy each day.

Instead of chasing happiness, we need to look for it the only place it exists—within us. That is true happiness, and does not depend on what’s happening “out there” in the world.

Someone once asked Wayne Dyer what was blocking her happiness. His response was “Only your belief you have blocks.”

I know some folks would disagree with these perspectives. But they’ve worked for me. They can work for you too.


Here’s Wayne Dyer talking about chasing happiness:

Related links:

The Present Moment Is Your Key To Happiness
But He’s Happy
Are You Sad?
Life, Depression, and Happiness
15 Surefire Keys To Happiness


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