Your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself. Being true to anyone else or anything else is not only impossible, but the mark of a fake messiah.” ~ Richard Bach


This above all: to thine own self be true….” ~ William Shakespeare

A couple weeks ago one of my closest childhood friends died. We hadn’t been in touch in recent years, but were in constant touch when we were school kids.

I’ve always thought of myself as a maverick. But Reed had me beat by a mile. There was nothing conventional about him.

One of the things we loved to do together was play with our chemistry sets—we both were fascinated by the subject. Reed knew all about chemistry and science, and I learned a lot from him.

One day after class our fourth-grade teacher took me aside and urged me to sever my close friendship with Reed. She thought he would never amount to much, and felt he was a bad influence on me.

She sure got him wrong!

After we graduated from high school I went into the US Navy and Reed went to college. He graduated with a doctorate degree, and spent his working career as a science teacher. When he retired he returned to our hometown, and lived there with his wife and three children till he died.

Reed had retired early and spent his “second career” as a television broadcaster, with his own weekly news show. He became a celebrity in western New York State. He developed a reputation as a passionate advocate for elderly people and their welfare, when he himself was still a relatively young man.

We all have unique gifts and talents. Reed certainly had his, despite our fourth-grade teacher’s opinion. He had a friendly, outgoing personality. Everybody loved him. I saw his final broadcast just a couple weeks before he died. He was as charismatic and eloquent as I remembered him from long ago.

Our fourth-grade teacher’s opinion notwithstanding, Reed made a huge, positive difference in many lives because he believed in himself and because he loved people. He always ended his shows with these words:

May all that is proud and true and noble abide with you.”

Reed was a man who dared to be true to himself.

We do not have to be in the public eye, as Reed was, to use our unique gifts and talents—gifts and talents not one other person on this planet has. According to my spirit guides, not only is it necessary for us to acknowledge our special gifts and talents—but it is required that we use them for the greater good of others and ourselves. This is the reason we incarnated in this lifetime.


This video is a bit different from those we normally have. But if you sit quietly while you watch it, I think you’ll gain greater love and appreciation for yourself. The scenery and music are soothing and peaceful.

Related links:

Being True To Yourself


How Do You Learn To Love Yourself?

Do You Have a Hard Time Loving Yourself?


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