Do You Dread Growing Older? by John Cali

I never thought much about growing older—that is, until it started happening to me.

But you know what? This is the best time of my life. I’m having more fun, am happy and healthy, and doing only what I love. I’ve learned every moment is precious.

The best part is I’ve found that inner peace and joy that seemed to elude me in my younger years.

I would say—and this is a totally unscientific conclusion, based only on my personal observations—most folks are not having fun as they grow older.

Here are some thoughts from Spirit.


  • Your bodies are not destined or programmed to deteriorate with the passing years. They are capable of living far longer than most of you do.
  • Plan your life to live joyfully, to extract as much fun and laughter as you can from every moment, no matter what your age.
  • Your life should be joyful. Your death should be joyful. Of course, there really is no death, only life eternal.
  • Enjoy the simple things in your life, as you did when you were a little child—the dawning of each new day, playing in the grass and dirt, chasing birds and bugs.
  • Laugh a lot every day. Live fully in the present moment—you did that as a child. You can do it again now.
  • Enjoy your own company. Yes, we want you to enjoy other people too. But you cannot be truly whole and happy until you can be comfortable alone.
  • Turn off your television, phone, and computer now and then—just enjoy the silence and the solitude.
  • Get out into nature often. The natural world—the animals, plants, and other wonders of your planet will inspire and uplift you.
  • Watch what you do with your body—what you put into it, how you nurture it. And most of all, how you love it. Love your body unconditionally. Talk to it with positive, life-affirming words.
  • Keep busy with activities and people who bring you joy and fulfillment.
  • Ignore the world’s propaganda extolling the benefits of a young, slim, sexy body. You may not have that, but the body you do have is still beautiful. See it as beautiful.
  • Appreciate and enjoy the wisdom you have gained all through the years of your life.
  • Know all is well. Be happy. Love yourself no matter what.


Here’s a hilarious video of older folks having lots of fun.

Related links:
How Old Are You?

Falling Apart
Planned Obsolescence
Eternal Life


How do you feel about growing older? Is it a blessing—or a curse? Do you believe you can remain healthy and happy until the day you die? Please share your thoughts and comments with us below.

What other subjects would you like us to talk about in these posts? Please email me.


About John Cali
John Cali is a writer, blogger, and channel for a group of spirit guides. His next book is Real Answers to Life’s Pesky Questions: Conversations With Spirit, Book 1. John lives in northwestern Wyoming.

14 Responses

  1. Micki

    Hi John,

    What a fabulous video, what incredible folk they are. I wholeheartedly agree with what Spirit says…this time in our lives, is our time in the sun, we are now at the stage of our lives to simply enjoy just “being” and I for one am just enjoying being alive, communing with nature, being with friend’s and family, helping when and where I can and loving it. LIFE is GREAT!!!

    Thank you again for bringing it out for us to talk about.

    Love and hugs to you.

    • John Cali

      Hi Micki,

      Thanks very much. Yes, I love that video too. Life can be great at any age — it all depends on how we look at it.

      Love & hugs,

  2. beachdrifter

    John, I really LOVE hearing this:

    “But you know what? This is the best time of my life. I’m having more fun, am happy and healthy, and doing only what I love. I’ve learned every moment is precious.

    The best part is I’ve found that inner peace and joy that seemed to elude me in my younger years.”

    I already knew what the Spirit world’s perspective is, but your personal experience…that’s just fantastic!

  3. Rich

    Hi John, I found you on the documentary ‘Tuning In’, and you stood out for me somehow, I also found your app just by chance which drew me even more to you! You’re blog is great and I love your style and spirit you are channeling. Not related to this post; I was wondering if you had any posts on channeling, as I am reading the book by Sanaya Roman that you read and have started following some of the meditations, and like many probably, been having some doubts etc on the realness of it all. Even if you don’t reply, I ‘d like to thank you for your work here, because of you and others I started to open to the possibilities I wanted which I didn’t consider before. So thanks! Have the best day ever! Rich

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Rich — I appreciate your kind words. We all had a lot of fun making the “Tuning In” movie.

      Sananya’s and Duane’s book, even though it’s many years old now, is still great — I continue to review it now and then. From all I’ve learned from other channels, and from my own experience, I’d say having doubts is part of the process. If you keep going, you get past those — and then you wonder why you ever doubted. 🙂

      We do have several posts on channeling. Here are links to a couple I can recall. There may be more — just do a search on our website for “channel” or “channelling” or “channeling” — that should work.

      “What Exactly Do Spirit Guides Do?”

      “What Does It Feel Like To Channel Spirit?”

      I hope that helps, Rich. Thanks again.


      • Susan

        Well, John, thanks for all of this. I am truly grateful that now that I am older I actually have the time to do things like reading and exploring Sanaya’s book – which I got just a couple of weeks ago. Friends think I’m a bit nutty but perhaps they always have, anyway. Doesn’t bother me! I have time to read your posts, watch some Abraham videos, and Mooji videos. All these things, also, have given me a clearer view on A Course in Miracles. Interesting how all things work together… Loving it!!!

        • John Cali

          You’re most welcome, Susan. I know what you mean about folks thinking you’re nutty. My family’s thought that of me for most of my life, 🙂 Yes, it is interesting how all things work together. As long as we stay out of the way, life just flows beautifully.

  4. jane ritson

    Hi Again,

    Enjoyed your latest blog post.

    I think people don’t fear death so much as the suffering they see some people go through first.

    I am specifically thinking of cancer. I watched my father die from cancer and how it affected the people who had to watch him spend months in pain.

    If passing was more peaceful it would be less of an issue. Is the need to suffer a pre-determined choice for a reason?

    Thank you.


    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Jane. I agree — I think most folks fear pain more than death. But I do not think there is any “pre-determined choice” limiting us. We’re free to make a new choice in every present moment.

    • beachdrifter

      Jane, pain and suffering are nothing more than extensions of day-to-day negative emotion you’ve been feeling (and ignoring) before the pain begun.

      If you practice feeling good, chilling out, relaxing, meditating…prolonged pain and suffering cannot be your experience. And you can reverse course at any point in the process, no matter where you are, and what has happened before.

      There’s nothing to worry about…ever!

      • John Cali

        Thank you, beachdrifter, for your wise words in reply to Jane. I agree, particularly with your reference to meditating. I’ve been meditating over 30 years, and that experience proves to me the truth of your words.

  5. Conshana

    “Love thy Neighbor, AS THYSELF”,,, To me, that means I have to love me, and by the standard I use to love me, I love other people. And folks don’t recognize my physical challenges, because I don’t choose to complain. I wake up in the morning, and it’s a wonderful day. And if I wake up “Across the Bridge”, it’s STILL a beautiful day – I am where I belong, no matter where I am. Yes, it takes a lot of courage, to gain the years we have on this Earth. And that in itself says a LOT, about the bravery of souls who have chosen to incarnate.
    Coming Thursday, I enter my Eighth Decade. BUT, I’ll NEVER be an old man. It is flat out, tee-totally impossible.

    My Last Name Is YOUNG.

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Conshana. I absolutely love your perspective on growing older or, as I like to say, moving through the years. I’m a bit younger than you, but neither will I ever be an old man.

      As you said, we are always where we belong. I love the way Anita Moorjani put it in her book about her near-death experience. She said wherever she goes, in the physical world or the world of spirit, she is always home.

      Have a wonder-filled birthday — you will be forever YOUNG!

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