One of the most common issues people bring to us in personal readings is romantic relationships—an appropriate subject for today, Valentine’s Day.

People usually ask us how to find a romantic relationship, and then how to handle it after they’ve got “the tiger by the tail.”

Here are some thoughts from Spirit:

If you wish to attract your perfect lover, you must first become your own perfect lover. The law of attraction says like attracts like. You have many ways of expressing that—the rich get richer, the better it gets the better it gets, birds of a feather flock together, etc.

This is what we suggest you do. Sit down and write a list of all the qualities you want in your partner. Include as much detail as feels comfortable. Then take a good, honest self-inventory. Finally, compare the results of that self-inventory with the list of your perfect partner’s qualities.

After that you’ll generally find yourself in one of two places. Either you’ll be looking for someone to fill the gaps you perceive in yourself—someone to “complete” you. Or you’ll be wanting to share with another the beauty you’ve created in your own life.

Either way you’ll get a perfect match—someone as needy as you, or someone as powerful as you.

What you are is what you will attract and create in your own life. No exceptions. The law of attraction guarantees you will always get more of what you are.

Adapted from Soulmate Vibrations by John Cali (Great Western Publishing, 2012)

Related links:
Romantic Relationships
Soul Mates
Loving Relationships
Romance, Focus, and Co-creating


Do you agree or disagree with Spirit’s advice to fall in love with yourself before you go looking for a partner? What has been your experience with relationships (not necessarily only romantic ones)? Please share your thoughts and comments with us below.

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