The Price of Sensitivity by John Cali

One recent morning, as I was meditating, I felt a sudden, sharp, stabbing pain in my left leg. At first I had no idea what was going on.

The pain shook me out of my meditative state, and I got to thinking about what was happening. Then it came to me. A close friend was having some health problems, including sharp pains in his left leg.

I intuitively knew I was picking up from him the pain I was feeling. So I sent him love and healing energy. My pain vanished instantly, and did not return.

Here’s Spirit.


As you grow and become more spiritually aware you become more and more sensitive to energy. Most of you already know that.

But the “trick,” if you will, is to discern the source of the pain or discomfort, if that’s what you’re feeling. Often, as with John, the source is outside yourself.

This is not a bad thing. It’s good to be able to tune in to others’ energy and, if they need it, to help them — as John did with his friend in sending love and healing energy. (By the way, the friend felt the healing, as he told John later.)

It never does you or anyone else any good for you to take on the pain of others. You cannot help them from your place of pain, regardless of the source of your pain. You help others best when you come from your centered place of peace and power, not pain.

As we said a moment ago, increasing sensitivity comes with spiritual growth. The price you pay for that increasing sensitivity is the sensitivity itself. So it’s important for you, for your own sake, to know when the pain is yours and when it is not.

If you stop for a few moments, as John did, and think about it, the answer will come. Trust that. If you prefer you can also ask your higher self or spirit guide to help you. Either way is fine.

But do seek the answer — do not assume you are the source of the pain. Sometimes you will be, but not always. Your growing spiritual awareness will make you more and more sensitive to the energies of others. The price of sensitivity is sensitivity.


Have you had similar experiences with picking up on other people’s energy? How do you deal with it? Please comment below.

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8 Responses

  1. beachdrifter

    The source of pain, or discomfort, is never outside yourself. It’s always you. That doesn’t mean that you can’t focus similarly to those around you, but it’s still your focus that causes the discomfort.

    By attributing the source of something in your life to others, you disempower yourself to some degree.

  2. Brenda Nasser

    I’ve learned from Spirit/spirits to visualize those who’ve asked me for healing energy. I just go to a quiet place in my mind and visualize the person and wait. Before very long, I begin to see the colors showing on, around, and in the body. After using this technique for many years, I’ve learned what each color symbolizes and I mix an energy that will dissipate the undesirable color/disease/airment.

    • John Cali

      Thank you very much, Brenda, for sharing. That sounds like a very powerful and effective healing technique.

  3. Julia Pierce


    Oh yeah, the last two or three years I felt everything Cordy felt, then, everything that my Mom was feeling. It Has Been Bizarre! As mom has recovered I’ve felt more and more like myself. On the one hand, it’s helped me to know what to do to help them, on the other it’s kind of weird not knowing how to get back to myself.

    My question is, how does one keep from absorbing another’s pain? How do you keep your energies separated? Just in case you’re looking for questions.

    THANKS as always!


    • John Cali

      Thanks, Julia, for your comments. You might want to see MG’s response and the book recommendation. Sounds like that might help you with your questions.

  4. M G

    Hi, John! Thank you for bringing up this topic. I have studied the phenomenon of empathy, emotional, physical and other forms, for some time. This increased sensitivity is, for some, an inborn trait, and can be a challenge to address. I recommend a wonderful book titled “Empowered by Empathy” by Rose Rosetree. She is a pioneer in not only describing empathy in its various forms, but also created techniques for managing it energetically. Love and hugs to you, John!

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, MG, for your comments, and for the book recommendation. Sounds like a great resource for those having an issue with empathy.

      Love & hugs,

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