Do You Think Homosexuality Is Unnatural—or Wrong? by John Cali

Two gay men

Even in this era of dramatic transformation on our planet and in our human consciousness, there are still places where we hang on tightly to outdated ideas that just don’t work anymore. Or perhaps never did.

One of those is certainly the whole area of human sexuality, especially homosexuality.

I personally find it encouraging that we are at least talking more openly than ever before about these issues, especially homosexuality.

Even in conservative places like Wyoming, where I live, there is more open discussion—more willingness to see life from other people’s perspectives. More compassion, more understanding, more kindness.

My spirit guides have talked often about sexuality, including homosexuality. Here are some of their observations:

  • All sexual orientations are right and good.

  • You are all a combination of masculine and feminine aspects, with one generally being the predominant aspect.
  • So why should you judge or condemn another who chooses a homosexual lifestyle?

  • All relationships, sexual or otherwise, are always for the highest good of all concerned.

  • You focus too much on the sexual aspects of yourselves, and not enough on your true nature.

  • Your true nature, what and who you are, is pure love.

  • Love transcends sexuality and all the other “differences” you perceive among yourselves.

  • Love embraces all those differences.

  • Love is the choice to see the God in yourselves and all others.

  • When you love in that way there are no differences.

  • Then you will see yourselves and all others as we see you.

  • We see you as bright and beautiful beings of light, for that is who you truly are.

  • When you see yourselves and others through our eyes you will have returned to your true essence—which is love.


Here’s a great discussion between two Christians who disagree about homosexuality. One is a pastor and the other is Kevin Rudd, the current prime minister of Australia. (He’s recently been defeated in national elections.)

Related links:
Does Your Sexual Preference Really Matter?
Sexual Energy
Sexuality and Diversity
Sexuality: Homo or Hetero?
Sex and Saints
We’re All God’s Children


How have your views of your own sexuality evolved over the years? How have your views of homosexuality evolved over the years? Please share your thoughts and comments with us below.

What other subjects would you like us to talk about in these posts? Please email me.


About John Cali
John Cali is a writer, blogger, and channel for a group of spirit guides. His next book is Real Answers to Life’s Pesky Questions: Conversations With Spirit, Book 1. John lives in northwestern Wyoming. Sign up for his newsletter here.

32 Responses

  1. Jeannie

    The heart knows what it wants. There is no right or wrong about it. It simply is the desire of the heart and if one follows the heart one can never go wrong.

    I’m not a big fan of marriage, been there, done that and don’t really want to do it again. If two people regardless of sex want to be together in marriage or not in marriage great! Their choice, their opinion and their desire. God bless them!

    love and hugs

  2. Susan

    So much easier to simply love than to make up reasons why we cannot… Thank you, John, for all that you do!

  3. Joseph k

    I think it’s quite trivial at this stage but still controversial
    That’s why the media makes such. Big deal of it ‘sex sells’
    It is a hot ropic in our modern culture
    And people throw it around all over the place
    For a lot of kids who seem to be brought up by tv
    To some lads everything is ‘gay’
    Uh that’s a gay hat, it’s just replaced the word sissy or whatever
    In secondary school we used to knock about saying things like ‘ya big gay ya’ as boys still do
    Or all that stuff ,part of it is the lack of male role models or knowing what it means to be a man
    Which would hav been more clear cut in previous generations
    I’ve come to peace with the gay terminology at this stage ,I realise that a lot of brilliant artists,musicians and intellectuals are that way inclined, and it’s their business ,why should it matter so much
    I’ve realised it shouldn’t matter that much to others who a Person falls in love with or has romance with
    The problem iis though It isn’t black and white there a lot of grey areas and even Rainbow
    I think really peopl have Different needs and people are naturally yearn for balance and whole ness in whatever form it takes
    Every bodies seaching for happiness trying all sorts if ways to get there
    But in the end they say its to be found within
    There’s actually an interesting take on his by seth ,channeled about man/woman’s natural bisexual nature it’s says
    I think it’s our culture that makes a big deal of these things,probably to sell it and make controversy and money through the media etc
    I don’t think it should really matter that much,just let people get on with their lives as they see fit
    As my granny said after we were talking of the publicity of gay couples tc
    ‘Sure it’s always been here but people didn’t make such a big deal of it’
    The native Americans had a name for this the two spirit people who were seen a sacred
    And they allow men who wanted to live like women or vice versa
    It’s made a big deal o in our culture especially in a gossipy way
    But it’s.a tired silly game to play ‘is he gay’ etc etc
    In many societies it was always there the understanding would be ,just don’t show it off in public
    Thats what Oscar Wilde was sent to prison for, but he was also married with children at the time!
    I think ultimately it doesn’t /shouldn’t really matter that much
    Just let people live their lives their way,live and let live as they say
    Each to his/her own without judgement,
    And we choose our reality that suits us
    If people all accepted ,respected,tolerated and understood ech other
    We’d be in the world of our dreams
    Ive also realised also that there’s a magic or alchemy in male female relations
    And that’s part of what makes th world go round
    Love makes the world go round ,in whatever shape or form it takes
    Ultimately we are all spirit and one,in our human form we manifest all kinds of variations of life and love

  4. Joseph

    In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth. And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters. And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. And God saw the light, that it was good. . . . And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
    And God blessed them . . . And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.

    So, all was blessed and good until the men who wrote the rest of the Bible injected their false beliefs, judgments and misperceptions.

    Some channels have spoken of whole planets exclusively homosexual – just another of God’s potentials for deepening the souls experience of love. My mind can choose to believe it, or not, but isn’t that the truth of all things.

    Bless all, love all, allow all unconditionally. In doing so you become the mirror of the one who created you.

    “Our lives are the thoughts and images of our mind projected into physical reality to the exact extent that we believe them. Thus if we believe an action or lack of action will result in a particular consequence, it will appear to the exact extent that you believe it.” unknown

    “All negative thoughts and feelings are simply love under pressure. Every action you take and every word you speak is an expression of love. Anger, sadness, greed and guilt are just contracted forms of energy that originally came from love, yet were contorted by the mind. If you look closely, you’ll find that everything in this Universe comes from love. This may be a radical idea to digest and religiously implement in your personal belief system, yet I invite you to try on these new prescription “love glasses” for a week or two. The slightest change in ones perspective can dramatically shift everything!” Jafree Ozwald

    We are shifting and I believe that God would add, ‘and that is very good.’

  5. Sylvia

    Homosexuality is not a choice. Some chose more challenges to deal with than others.
    Thank you.

  6. Mikala

    I know people who eat peanut butter and onion sandwiches. I can’t imagine how that must taste, but some people love them. Good for them. I won’t be making them for myself, but that’s as far as the conversation goes. To each his/her own.

    Sexuality is not the point. Equality, Love, Compassion, Understanding, Being One with All That Is ——- that’s the point.

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Mikala.

      As you said, “To each his/her own.” It is not ours to judge or condemn.

      I agree with you — sexuality is not the point. All that matters is the recognition we are all one, regardless of our differences — and living in that oneness.

      • Mikala

        John, please understand that this reply is not, in any way, negative toward your response to what I said.

        What jumped out at me, and I have heard or read in so many different places and times was the “It’s not ours to judge or condemn>”

        I don’t get that. Do people look in others’ windows to see what they are doing in their own houses? What’s to judge? Do hetero folks get judged or do the judges just assume they know what these people do? And why is there anything to judge? Some people reject sex altogether. Is that something to judge? And who has the time to make judgements about others’ activities – no matter what they are? Is there some competition I don’t know about?

        Americans are fixated on this topic. I realize that I may sound naive here, but I truly cannot understand.

        • beachdrifter

          People feel insecure. They think that whatever is “out there” can get into their pie just because it’s out there. As a result, they think it’s important to control it.

          They see something they don’t like – e. g. homosexual activity – and they feel negative emotion while they’re considering it.

          So they think that homosexuality is, in part, responsible for the way they feel, and the idea that it threatens their well-being (in some way) is born.

          It’s a misunderstanding, or lack of understanding, how the universe works, and yet, just about everyone on this planet does this to some degree.

          If you think Americans are fixated on this topic, you should see what’s going on in Russia, or in the Arab world.

  7. beachdrifter

    Since heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual activities can be observed everywhere in nature, they must be, by definition, natural.

    The whole subject has become so convoluted over time that I think it would actually benefit from less attention (I don’t mean on this blog, but in the public discussion). The perception of these things changes over time, over generations, and whenever you’re trying to “speed it up”, all you usually do is activate more resistance around it, which actually slows the process down.

    Just focus on what you love, and leave everyone else and their opinions out of the picture, and you’re going to live the life you want, period.

    The video made me laugh – seriousy, the bible again? It’s so silly that the same people that say “The bible, or Jesus, [supposedly] said it’s wrong, and so I too think it’s unacceptable” violate countless other “rules” in that book themselves, on a daily basis. But I guess self-reflection and logic is not everyone’s forte…

    With that being said, I don’t have a problem with either opinion. I think all opinions, whether I agree with them or not, have value. They represent choices, variety, and that’s always a good thing.

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, beachdrifter, for your comments.

      I agree wholeheartedly with you on your words, “Just focus on what you love, and leave everyone else and their opinions out of the picture, and you’re going to live the life you want, period.”

      It really is that simple. Maybe too simple for some folks.

      As you said, all opinions have value. This reminds me of something the US Supreme Court’s Oliver Wendell Holmes once said:
      “…if there is any principle of the Constitution that more imperatively calls for attachment than any other it is the principle of free thought—not free thought for those who agree with us but freedom for the thought that we hate.”

  8. shirley White

    Well. . .a subject I have tired of many years ago. Since I am about to have my 73rd birthday in a month I have lived through many machinations of this topic. And since it somehow turned out that I am a gay woman. . .and definitely not by choice. . .I have never agreed that it is a choice that people make. I suppose it may be possible that some “choose” it, but the vast majority of gay people that I have known over a lifetime have never made such a conscious decision. Most of us either knew or had a multitude of clues that we were attracted to the same sex in our early childhood. When or if we were able to address that knowing later in our lives it became quite obvious to most of us that there had never been another attraction to choose from. I often wonder just when it was in a non-gay person’s life that they chose to be heterosexual. Strange isn’t it? None of my many and mostly non-gay friends and associates ever remember having to make a choice about their sexuality. It was just who they were.. Just as it was just who I am that I am as a gay woman.

    An interesting pre-incarnational choice that we made for the lessons to be garnered from such a life style. It has certainly taught us tolerance and gave us a devout striving for justice and equality among all our human family. Not just for some, but for all.

    Other than that, there is really no difference between any of us. We have either chosen to lead a life of purpose, integrity, spirituality and honor, or we have not. We are all just spirits choosing to have a human experience.

    Even if you may not think so, someone you know or some member of your extended family is a gay person. . .(it is guessed there are between 10-20% of the population that is gay). And we really aren’t any different than the rest of you. Just souls doing our best to make it through some difficult circumstances at times as we weave the tapestry of our this lifetime on earth.

    Any questions? I don’t have all the answers, but I have a few.

    Hugs, Blessings and loves

    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Shirl.

      Like you, I never thought of our sexuality as a conscious lifestyle choice. Though it certainly is, in my opinion, a choice we (our spirits) made before we incarnated.

      I know, as you said, you don’t have all the answers. But you do have more answers than those of us heterosexuals who never had to deal with the challenges you have.


    • beachdrifter

      I looked up the numbers a few years ago…you say “10-20%”…that’s a bit on the high side.

      I think it’s closer to 4% of the population.

      Here’s a link:

      or for the US:

      Naturally, if you’re gay yourself, or are thinking about the subject quite a bit for whatever reason, Law of Attraction would, through endless avenues, give you the impression that the number has to be quite a bit higher.

      Interestingly enough, looking back at school, 3 people in my class of 100 turned out to be gay (even though only one of them came out while still in school). While a seemingly meaningless datapoint, I just looked up the numbers for my country, and it’s…2.7% (and this a very free country where homosexuality is highly accepted).

      I would not be suprised to see it being roughly the same across the globe, as these things are orchestrated from broader perspective.

      • shirley White

        The big problem with the “guesses” about the numbers is still a very large number of us gay folks are hidden and in the closet and not willing to admit to anyone let alone themselves that they are gay. So getting to any sort of definitive number or percentage is virtually impossible. There are a lot of us, that’s for sure. And really the numbers are not important.

        What is important is how one chooses to live their life regardless of what other “labels” the rest of us insist upon placing on people.

        I am not fond of labels and I think anytime any of us are judging others by whatever measure we may choose to do so, we are outside of our true nature of loving spiritual beings.

        Thanks for your comments
        Blessings and hugs

        • John Cali

          Thanks very much, Shirl.

          I agree with you — the numbers are not important, but being true to ourselves is.


  9. Tiat

    p.s. Being gay is not a lifestyle choice. Logically, if God created us, god created homosexuality, if homosexuality is unnatural, then God made a mistake. If god made a mistake, then god is wrong. Can She be wrong? If She can be wrong, then what else is She wrong about?

    • John Cali

      We never said it was a lifestyle choice. But it IS a lifestyle choice of sorts when people choose to criticize and condemn those on paths different from their own.

  10. Tiat

    No, I don’t think it is unnatural or wrong. Can’t believe we are still talking about this!

      • Jeanne

        It will not be an issue for too much longer. People under 30 overwhelmingly approve of gay lifestyles, and can’t really imagine what all the fuss is about. They really don’t know why anybody cares.

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