You Can Die When and How You Choose by John Cali and Spirit

I believe there are two sides to the phenomenon known as death, this side where we live, and the other side where we shall continue to live. Eternity does not start with death. We are in eternity now. ~ Norman Vincent Peale

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By Roger Higgins, World Telegram staff photographer

In an interview some years ago Dr. Deepak Chopra talked about his father’s death. The elder Chopra, also a doctor, was 82 when he died. He was active till the night of his death. In fact, he had seen patients earlier that day.

Here’s part of the interview, with Deepak speaking:

“In my father’s entire lifetime I never once saw him sick or emotionally upset. He was the most patient and kind person….

“(The night of his death) he woke up my mother and said, ‘Wake up. Wake up. I’m leaving now.’ He said that twice, closed his eyes, and was gone.

“There was no discomfort, no shortness of breath; he died as elegantly as he had lived. And he went with joy.

“We celebrated his death because we knew he went exactly the way he wanted to go….He lived like a saint and he died like one. In India we call death ‘The Big Meditation.'”

Here are some thoughts from Spirit.


Your soul knows the means of your death are just as significant as the means of your birth. Or, put another way, the mother who gave birth to you is no more precious than the person who brings death to you. Both are precious. And both are friends, lovers, angels. Both are eternal companions you have known forever.

Of course, ultimately, you are the only one who brings death to yourself. No one else has that power over you.

But you may well choose to die at the hand of another, or from some dis-ease. Or you can die peacefully in your bed, in a state of perfect health. You all have the ability to do that.

When you have truly integrated these ideas into your thinking, your life, and your being, you will be totally free. You can do it in this lifetime. You can die when and how you choose.

Copyright © 2014 by John Cali


Here are Abraham and Esther Hicks talking about what the death experience feels like.

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17 Responses

  1. Pat K

    I have been thinking this very thing lately. What do you think about what is called “the higher Self” having a “say” in the decision?

    • John Cali

      Well, I believe our higher selves are always with us, in many forms — intuition, for example. But we don’t always listen to that voice within. If we do listen, then I suppose you can say they do have a “say.”

  2. Hans

    Thanks, John, for this wonderful posting.

    Just about 11 Years ago I was very ill and lying in the hospital, my guides told me I had the choice to come ‘home’, or either stay in the physical world. I said to my wife that, because of all the hardships I have had to cope with during my life, for me the end would be near. My wife and son, beside my bed urged me to stay, because in that case I would not be able to meet our granddaughter Julia, yet unborn, who last week celebrated her 11th birthday.

    At that point I realized I not only was responsible for myself, but also for my wife, children and grandchildren, the people I would be meeting and yes, also the Running Fox work.

    So I decided to stay and am very grateful for that decision. On the other hand, if I would have chosen to come home, everything would have been all right as well.

    Indeed you are very right John, and I have experienced it: One can die, when and how you choose…

    • John Cali

      You’re most welcome, Hans.

      Yes indeed, Hans, we can die when and how we choose. I sure am glad you chose to stay around longer. We’ve all benefited greatly from you continued presence on this earth — and, of course, from your work with Running Fox.

  3. Margaret

    Dear Hans,
    I too am grateful you chose to come back 🙂
    Your posts are always so beautifully potent.
    Thank you
    Margaret x

  4. Margaret

    When news came that my sister was passing on, I was just about to leave for the airport to fly out to visit her with my mum. We decided to travel anyway so we could support the family but the long flight was not easy dealing with emotions in such a public and confined space. Music always helps so I listened to a looped tape of songs over and over as I looked out of the window onto the blue blue sky and amazing cloud formations. The song that spoke to me and which felt like a message from my sister was I can see clearly now the rains have gone”.

    It was the loveliest of messages and I knew my sister was free.

    It was beautiful meeting in the sky like that.

    Thanks you for all these stimulating and reassuring posts and inspiring videos.

    Love Margaret

    • John Cali

      Thanks so much, Margaret for sharing your beautifully touching story. As my spirit guides frequently remind us, we never lose those we love.


  5. Jeannie

    Life and death, two sides of the same coin. Both doorways, one to the physical world, one to another plane of existence. Death is the easiest thing to do, life is what complicates death, for in life we are taught to fear death. We choose both and we forget, we veil the truth. Yet we live eternally and we can remember what was, what will be and what is. Once we grasp that we are in control, all fear slips away and we bask in the joyful loving knowledge that we are Eternal.

    love and hugs

  6. Pat

    Thank you, John. This is comforting to know — Abraham-Hicks video on death. Also, love hearing we can live life freely while alive.

  7. Pat

    Everything is okay at all times. Gosh, but I’d like to see that idea (and so many others you’ve expressed so eloquently on your site) hit critical mass. What a paradise this planet would be! Oh, wait. Forgot. It already is.

  8. Sandra Lund

    This was really wonderful – your sharing and the video! Thank you, John!!

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