Do You Have a Hard Time Loving Yourself? John Cali

As we move deeper into the holiday season, I see more and more folks getting stressed and overwhelmed. That’s not what Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, Boxing Day, etc. are all about. They’re about celebrating the season, one another, and ourselves.

Yet many folks put themselves at the end of their long holiday lists. They don’t take time to slow down and enjoy the season. In short, they have a hard time loving themselves in their frantic rush to get everything done.

Does that sound like you?

Here is what Spirit has to say about this:

Loving yourself unconditionally is the single most important thing you can do in this lifetime.

If you cannot celebrate the miracle that is you first, then you will often find little joy or reason to celebrate anyone or anything else in your world. It all begins with you. Your ability to love, appreciate, and celebrate yourself is the key here.

Make a commitment to taking care of yourself. Many of you simply do not faithfully attend to your own needs and desires. Yet if you don’t take care of yourself first, you’re not much good to anyone else. The best thing you can do for others, for the world, is to put your own happiness and well-being first.

Does that sound selfish? Well, it is selfish. Or, better, self-ish—focusing on, and loving, yourself so you may then love others well. Even your mainstream religions tell you to love God and others as you love yourself. But that message often gets muddled and lost. The part that gets lost is the part about loving yourself. As if that’s some kind of horrible sin.

We want you to see the wonder and beauty you are. We want you to feel loved. We want you to feel worthy. We want you to see yourself with the great love we feel toward you. With the great love God feels toward you.

Love yourself unconditionally, as we love you.

(Excerpted from Spirit Oracle Cards.)

Related links:
Spirit Oracle Cards
Love Is a Choice


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5 Responses

  1. jerry

    I feel that this is a good question to ask yourself and immediately be able to see what level of understanding you are working from. If we have a hard time appreciating who we are, then we are not engaging our higher self who knows that ‘all is well in all of creation’. It is not easy to stay in this mode, but when things start to get us down, we are taking things too seriously!

    I find myself sometimes getting stuck, ironically, during the holiday season. Being a salesman around the holidays with hundreds of frustrated and low energy people every day can wear you down. But, I have found that I can realign myself quickly with just a smile and remembering that this is a game we have created!

    Happy Holidays


    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Jerry, for your wise comments and observations.

      Happy Holidays to you too!


  2. Christine

    Some people love themselves too much, the flipside of that coin.

    • John Cali

      I don’t think it’s possible to love too much. It certainly is possible to label something “love” when that’s not what it is.

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