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My spirit guides often talk about love, including self-love. They say animals are among our best teachers in learning to love, especially to love ourselves. All love starts with ourselves. In today’s world we seeing an epidemic of self-hatred—the source of virtually all this planet’s woes.

As Louise Hay says, “Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the keys to positive changes….When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.”

I grew up with some pretty dysfunctional people, some in my family and others among my friends. I did not see them as dysfunctional then. But now, in hindsight, I do. None of them truly loved themselves—some didn’t even like themselves

While I wasn’t dysfunctional when I was growing up, I sure could have used a lot more self-approval and self-acceptance!

My mother’s and father’s generation were Sicilian immigrants. They met with barely disguised prejudice from many Americans when they first came to this country over 100 years ago.

So they too struggled with self-acceptance. Also, they were Roman Catholic, and raised us in the church. Back in those days, there wasn’t much encouragement from the Catholic hierarchy to love ourselves. In fact, just the opposite. We were sinners, and deserving only of punishment for practically all we thought and did.

Those of you who are or were Catholic may remember, at the communion part of the mass service, we had to say “Lord, I am not worthy….”

In fact, our Catholic parish was “segregated.” The parish priest enforced a “rule” requiring Italians to sit on the left side of the church, and “Americans” on the right side.

Talk about lack of self-love, self-approval, and self-acceptance! We had it big time!


Mama Hill is a woman you may have never heard of—I hadn’t till recently. She’s a retired Los Angeles school teacher who’s bringing love and healing to so many who grew up without either. In this touching video she talks about the healing power of love, particularly self-love.

Related links:
Love Is a Choice
Love Is Not Enough

Do love yourself unconditionally? Most of us don’t, or at least didn’t at one time or another in our lives. What can you do about it? Do you have any suggestions for others struggling to love themselves? Please share your thoughts and comments with us below.

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About John Cali

John Cali is a writer, blogger, and channel for a group of spirit guides. His next book is Real Answers to Life’s Pesky Questions: Conversations With Spirit, Book 1. John lives in northwestern Wyoming. Sign up for his newsletter here.