George_c_scott_as_scroogeGeorge C. Scott as Scrooge by Bob Doucette

David O. Selznick, the legendary Hollywood filmmaker, once said “I’m so depressed. Christmas is the worst of all. Holidays are terrible, worse than Sundays. I get melancholia.”

Some of my family and friends struggle with the holidays, particularly the winter holidays. (Or summer, if you’re in the southern hemisphere.) Like Scrooge and Selznick, they dread to see them coming each year—whether it be Christmas, Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, Boxing Day, etc. etc.

Aren’t we missing the whole point of the holiday season? It’s supposed to be a time of celebration—a time of sharing peace, joy, and love with others. And yet, for many, it’s just the opposite.

Here are some of Spirit’s thoughts:

The holidays, the celebrations—whether Christmas or any other special time—often remind you of the inherent joy of life. Celebrations are all about joy, about honoring the lives of all your loved ones, and of all people.

But, just importantly, your celebrations are about you—about your appreciation and love for yourself.

If you cannot celebrate the miracle that is you first, then you will often find little joy or reason to celebrate Christmas—or any other holiday.

Your joy, your happiness, your peace depend only on you. And only on how you feel about you. Your ability to love, appreciate, and celebrate yourself is the key here. In that ability you are empowered to live fully in every moment with a deep sense of joy,

That’s what Christmas, or any other holiday, is all about, isn’t it? That’s what life is all about.

So instead of stressing yourself out, or making yourself miserable during the holidays, be joyful. Be joy.

Celebrate every day of your life as if it was Christmas or any other holiday. Celebrate yourself. Celebrate everything and everyone in your life. It’s all good!

Joy is your life’s purpose—your life’s highest purpose.


Bob Welsh is a retired Ohio State Trooper, and also a great story-teller. This video recounts a Christmas Eve long ago when Bob was on duty.

Related links:
Do You Have A Hard Time Loving Yourself?
The Spirit of Christmas
Merry Christmas

How do you feel about the holidays—are they depressing for you, or a time of joyous celebration? Please share your thoughts and comments with us.

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About John Cali
John Cali is a writer, blogger, and channel for a group of spirit guides. His next book is Conversations With Spirit: Real Answers to Life’s Pesky Questions, Book 1. John lives in northwestern Wyoming. Sign up for his newsletter here.