One day as I was grocery shopping I happened to hear two ladies discussing their woes. I wasn’t eavesdropping, but could not help overhear them. They were not talking quietly.

Both were having health problems. They were describing their problems in great detail to each other. This went on for quite a while, and I finally moved to another part of the store, out of earshot.

I see nothing wrong with acknowledging problems, whether they be health issues or anything else. But I do know, from my own personal experience, talking endlessly about anything, is going to bring more of it to you. You are defining and labeling yourself until you become your story.

To quote Deepak Chopra, “Freedom lies in separating yourself from your story.”

Here’s Spirit.


You all tell stories about yourselves, and you love to listen to others’ stories. The problems begin when you tell stories of “woe,” to use John’s word in his introduction.

When you dwell endlessly in conversations about your problems, your problems “loom larger than life,” if you will. That is literally true — whatever you focus on expands and brings more of your focus into your experience. You can literally make yourselves sick with your words. You can even kill yourselves.

If you talk about sickness you will be sick. If you talk about health you will be healthy. It’s that simple. Whatever story you tell about yourselves will manifest if you tell it long enough.

Eventually you begin to identify your self — your being — with your story. Then you become, for example, a “cancer patient.” You are not a cancer patient. That’s only a label you give yourself. You are a person who is temporarily out of balance.

Do you see the difference? Tell a better story and you’ll change your experience.

This applies to all areas of your human lives — health, aging, relationships, finances, etc. Tell the story you want and that’s the story you’ll live.

But even when you’re telling positive stories about yourselves you get into difficulty, even then, if you identify yourselves with your stories. You are not your stories. All you are is the person telling the stories.

Perhaps we’ll talk more about this another time.


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