Are You Happy? by John Cali

Spirit and I have talked about happiness many times over the years. Although they and I firmly believe we were meant to be happy in this lifetime, no matter what our circumstances, I know so few truly happy people. Often that’s because they look for happiness where they will never find it.

Today I want to share with you some of my favorite happiness quotations:

  • Remember happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think. ~ Dale Carnegie
  • You don’t need to search for inner happiness. It is already there within the silence of your being. You only need to stop searching and simply be. ~ Deepak Chopra
  • If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. ~ Mother Teresa
  • People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be. ~ Abraham Lincoln

  • Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions. ~ Dalai Lama
  • You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. ~ Albert Camus
  • Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know. ~ Ernest Hemingway

  • Happiness is a warm puppy. ~ Charles M. Schulz
  • A woman asked me recently “What are the blocks to my happiness?” I said “The belief that you have blocks.” ~ Wayne Dyer

  • No medicine cures what happiness cannot. ~ Gabriel Garcia Marquez

Here are a few happiness quotations from my spirit guides:

  • Happiness is not a place. Happiness is not your relationships, your jobs, your money, your friends or family. Happiness is not anything or anyone outside you.

  • The only place you can be happy is right here and now, in this present moment. Outside of this present moment happiness does not exist.

  • See your human lives from your higher selves’ perspective. Make that choice. Then you will find joy. Then, and only then, will you find happiness.

  • Happiness is a choice you can freely make. Unhappiness is a choice you can freely make.


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20 Responses

  1. anny

    Hi John,

    I believe that neither happiness nor suffering has anything to do with what happens to us but everything with our attitude towards it.

    I have seen people who have everything anybody could ever want to have and who are feeling totally miserable because nothing seems to be able to make them happy anymore.

    And even yesterday I watched a program on television, called ‘over my dead body’, which is about a group of young people who are terminally ill with cancer and how they are dealing with life (and death). And I saw a young girl of 18 years old in the last stages of her illness who was enjoying herself immensely at a concert. She was enjoying every little thing. As it was, she was the first to die. The other young people were exactly like her, even seeing the good things their illness had brought them and always looking forward to whatever else they could enjoy. Because they know they do not have much time left, they savour every moment they get and because of that they also do not seem to be afraid of dying. They seem to be twice as alive as everybody else.

    Being truly happy does not necessarily mean that nothing ‘bad’ will ever happen to you but to see all that is good even in what is seemingly bad. I think it is about giving up resistance and starting to allow. If you can do that there is nothing to be afraid of anymore and then you can be happy no matter what happens.

    Having said that, it is easier in theory than in practice and I have the greatest admiration for the people who can live that way.



    • John Cali

      Thanks very much, Anny, for your comments and for sharing those inspiring stories. Someone — I forget who now — once said once we fully remember who we truly are (divine beings who live forever) we would totally lose any fear of death.


  2. Micki

    Hi John,

    I love the song that came out years ago called “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” and so I don’t worry and I am happy. Have a fabulous weekend John.
    Love and hugs,

    • John Cali

      Hi Micki,

      I love that song too — thank you for reminding us all. You have a great weekend too, my dear!

      Lots of love & hugs,

  3. Ed

    Happiness is our true state of being, everything else is just what we think.

  4. Pam

    Certain cicumstances do not create Happiness—Happiness creates certain circumstances !!!! That has been my experience in my life. I Love it !!!! Get happy and stay Happy !!!!!

  5. IanB

    Hi John

    Quite so – Happiness, as Beran Wolfe observed, is not under the radiator.:

    “If you observe a really happy man, you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his child, growing double dahlias or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi Desert. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that had rolled under the radiator, striving for it as a goal in itself. He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of each day.”
    – W. Beran Wolfe

    I liked this quote so much when I first found it that I wrote about it here…

    Be happy!
    IanB ~

    • John Cali

      Thank you very much, Ian. I love that quote too! I appreciate you sharing it with us.


  6. deborah

    Nothing, outside ourselves, has the ability to make us unhappy. Even though it sometimes appears that way.
    Have a happy day John and everyone else also.

  7. Bella

    Hi John,

    Although I agree with you saying that we are supposed to be happy, I recently read the following quote:

    “You do not come into this world to have a dream run, without pain, suffering, without problems. The more varied your experience, the more learning from many mistakes, the more valuable your lifetime.”

    Is this true? What do you think?

    – Bella

    • John Cali

      Hi Bella,

      It’s true if you believe it is. Although life on earth has its challenges, I don’t believe we came here to suffer. Life is supposed to be fun, even in the midst of challenges. If it isn’t fun we’re missing something.


      • Bella

        I do agree that life is supposed to be fun, and that we are the creators of our experiences.. But sometimes it’s just difficult to maintain a happy attitude. But fortunately I finally came to realize that I’m the one who creates my own life. I really believe that now.

        – Bella

      • Ed

        Hi Bella:

        I agree with John in that we did not incarnate on Earth to suffer. We came here to allow our soul to learn and grow, and to help our society to advance its collective consciousness. We choose the methods of our learning and if we think we need to suffer to learn these lessons, then we will suffer.

        We are powerful creators, and if we believe that suffering is necessary, then the world will adjust itself to suit our needs and to provide us with all the situations it can to allow us to suffer.

        Unfortunately we do not intrinsically understand that the lessons we came to learn, can be taught to us with much less suffering than many of us experience. This is where connecting with spirit guides can be so helpful to us. They can show us paths we can follow that allow us to learn the lessons in a more loving and joyful way.

  8. ReneMcCoy

    All I have to do to feel happy is feel what’s in my heart.

  9. Robin Becker

    I use to be one of those that felt if I had this or that I would be happy or if this happened, etc. After years of being an Abraham/Hicks student and studying the LOA.. I get it that happiness is a choice. I no longer need something to be happy..I am focused in my now and appreciating what and who is in it. I believe we each can choose to be happy and focus on the millions of reasons there are to be so. And we can choose to not be and do so by focusing on the negative things and allowing negative thoughts be our main focus. It is all a personal choice.
    I prefer happiness, positive thinking and appreciation. Once I made that choice, life just keeps getting better and better.

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