One of the most common complaints I hear in my work is how stressful the world and our lives are. There’s too much to do, and too little time to do it in. There are so many distractions demanding our attention and energy. The world seems filled with bad news.
How can we avoid stress and find peace of mind? It seems an impossible task in an impossible world. But it’s far from impossible. Here’s Spirit.
Your world certainly seems filled with stress almost everywhere you look. Disasters and death abound. There doesn’t appear to be much good news out there. But there has never been a time when there have not been disasters and death. They are a “fact of life,” as you say.
On the other hand, there has never been a time in your world when there have not been acts of heroism, charity, and love. People caring for and loving each other.
“Good” news exists as surely as “bad” news does. What you see depends on you and your perspective. In other words, what do you choose to focus on? The “good” or the “bad?” Focusing on the “bad” news is what creates stress. But the stress is not “out there” — it’s in you.
Here are some of the ways we see many of you getting stressed out:
- Striving for perfection instead of knowing you are perfect right here and now
- Taking on more than you are comfortable with
- Never saying “No”
- Always putting yourself last
- Making your peace and happiness dependent on other people
- Feeling guilty about the past
- Worrying about the future
- Caring what others think of you
You’ll never create a happy, peaceful life that way. Stress is not necessarily a bad thing because it can help you re-focus on the life you want instead of the one you do not want. It’s when you become over-stressed that you lose it.
You will find yourself much happier if you simply focus on being in the present moment. Not thinking about yesterday or tomorrow. But simply being here now, in the present moment. That’s all you have anyway.
Most of the stress you feel comes from not being present in the moment. You’re often regretting the past or worrying about the future. Being fully focused in the present moment will bring you the peace you seek. In that peaceful place neither the past nor the future exist.
Do whatever it takes to get yourself into that peaceful place. Meditation is one powerful way. Listen to relaxing music. Take a walk out in nature. Spend time with a loved one, human or animal. The bottom line: Do whatever feels good and whatever nurtures you, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
Do this every day, even if only for a few minutes. You’ll be less stressed and more peaceful. You are very unloving to yourself if you do not do this every day. It need not take a lot of time. But you need this as much as you need the air you breathe. The alternative is to be in a state of overwhelm and stress.
But remember the source of the stress, and the solution to ridding yourself of it, are within you. It’s all inside you. You’re in control.
How about you? Are you stressed out? Please share your thoughts with us below.
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