There was a Gallup poll a while back about the self-esteem of Americans. It concluded 2 out of 3 (almost 70 percent) suffered from low or no self-esteem. That’s a pretty sobering statistic.

What’s the difference between self-esteem and self-image?

Most of us at one time or another in our lives build up elaborate self-images. They’re usually based on externals—how physically attractive we are, how much money we have, how many friends we have, how much worldly power we command, how big our houses are, etc. etc. You know the litany.

We feel good about ourselves only when we have all the parts that go to create what society deems important. But all those parts are temporary and have little to do with who we really are. We’ve created our self-images, the masks we present to the world. But the masks must come off sooner or later.

Then, if we have little or no self-esteem, we’re lost, floundering around in a world that no longer makes sense. We cannot survive the stormy seas of life if we don’t even know who we are or why we are here.

Although the Gallup poll focused on Americans, I’m sure the problem exists in other countries too.

So what can we do to change this? Here are some of Spirit’s suggestions:

  • Eliminate all self-criticism and self-judgement. You deserve better than that.
  • Eliminate all thoughts that scare you. Remember, you are totally safe and secure in this present moment. And this present moment is all you have.
  • Fear is based on what might happen in the future. So focus fully right here, right now, in the present moment. You are safe here. There is nothing to fear.
  • Be patient with yourself. You don’t have to become perfect, however you or your society define that. You are perfect just as you are.
  • Take good care of yourself—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. You already know how to do this. Just do it. Love yourself as you would a beloved family member or friend.
  • Know you are a powerful, sovereign being. You need nothing, no one outside yourself. You are God.
  • Your most important relationship is the one between you and your spirit. That relationship will ensure all your other relationships are healthy and whole.
  • Don’t expect another person or your society to “complete” you or make you happy. No one can complete you because you are already whole and complete. No one can make you happy because happiness is always an “inside job.”
  • Your self-image, which is by nature temporary, will some day fade and go away. If you have not built it on a foundation of self-esteem and self-love, you will have no foundation, no reason for being.


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