A while back we wrote an article, Botox and Beauty. In that article we talked about a mother who was regularly giving her eight-year-old daughter Botox injections.
Just today I came across the story of a father giving his 18-year-old daughter breast implants. The father happens to be a plastic surgeon. He’s also done plastic surgery on two older daughters, in their early 20s, and other family members.
Quite apart from the ethics of a doctor operating on his own family, I was surprised (though I should not have been) at what the 18-year-old said. She’d always had smaller breasts than her friends, and therefore, she needed the implants to increase her self-esteem.
In our earlier article we mentioned a Gallup poll that reported 70 percent of Americans suffer from low self-esteem. No wonder plastic surgery has become so popular today in our country.
We’ve been so brainwashed into believing we should find our value and validation in our physical bodies. If they don’t meet society’s incredibly ridiculous and rigid standards, then we need to do something about it.
I see nothing wrong with maintaining a healthy, good-looking body. But to base our self-esteem, our self-love on our body is so wrong-headed, it boggles my mind.
There’s been a steady, years-long stream of folks suffering from a lack of self-love and self-esteem coming to us for private sessions with Spirit. There have also been some of my family and friends who’ve talked with me about their lack of self-love and self-esteem. So I’ve probably seen and heard just about all there is. It’s not a pretty picture.
Spirit has said our most important relationship is between us and our higher selves. That relationship will ensure all our other relationships are healthy and whole. Then we won’t expect another person — or plastic surgery — to increase our happiness and self-esteem. We are already beautiful and lovable, just as we are. No one, nothing can make us happy because happiness is always within us. It has nothing to do with how beautiful our bodies are, especially by the Hollywood-style standards of beauty.
What are your thoughts about our society’s preoccupation with physical beauty? How do you define beauty? Please comment below.
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