11 Reasons You Don’t Love Yourself and What You Can Do About It by John Cali and Spirit

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What do you see when you look at yourself in a mirror? What do you feel?

For many years I did not like the guy I saw in the mirror every morning. He was never good enough. Sound familiar?

I’m convinced virtually every problem we have is rooted in a lack of self-love. And we humans are ingenious at inventing reasons why we cannot love ourselves. You’re probably familiar with the long litany. For example:

  • I’m too fat.
  • I’m too skinny.
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Angels, Demons, and Pope Francis by John Cali and Spirit

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As some of you know, I grew up in the Roman Catholic Church, and spent many years in Catholic schools. I graduated from a Jesuit college.

I loved the Jesuits because back then, when the church was still entrenched in the Middle Ages (it seemed to me), they were the vanguard, the forward thinkers.

Nonetheless, the Jesuits still taught traditional theology and philosophy. But they added an exciting new perspective, in contrast to everything I’d been taught before.Read more

Golden Gate in the Heavens by Hans Brockhuis

 

Just moments ago it was raining heavily. The heavens still looked a bit grey, were full of ozone though, and smelled fresh, elated and loaded with expectation.

Askew above me an oval shining golden spot in the veil of clouds attracted my eye. To my surprise and with an elegant swing I unexpectedly rose up from the earth and seemed to travel in the direction of the golden gate in the heavens.

An unseen force took me and I wondered what to expect.Read more

Seth and Jane Roberts by John Cali and Spirit

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I’ve been a fan of Jane Roberts, her husband Rob Butts, their Seth books—and Seth himself—over half my life. I count Jane and Seth among my most important spiritual teachers.

Some of you probably know who Tam Mossman is. Tam and I became friends many years ago. That was around the time he was the Prentice-Hall Publishing Company’s editor for Jane Roberts’ Seth books. He continued in that role many years.

The other day I received the following email from Tam.Read more

Life, Depression, and Happiness by John Cali

 

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In our last post, After You Read This You’ll Never Need To Make Another New Year Resolution Again, I mentioned I no longer regularly make new year resolutions—though I did make one for 2014. You can read the post for more details.

And in 2013 I made another resolution, though not at the new year. Let me explain.

Many of the folks I work with, and also some of those among my family and friends suffer from depression.Read more

After You Read This You’ll Never Need To Make Another New Year Resolution Again by John Cali and Spirit

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I pretty much gave up making new year resolutions years ago. But I’m making an exception for 2014. This year I’m resolving, simply, to love myself as I’ve never loved me before.

Here are some of my Spirit’s and my random thoughts on how we can all do just that.

  • The past is over. The future does not exist. Be here now—it’s all you have.
  • The only reason to look back at the past is to help you appreciate how far you have come.
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Crossing the Rainbow Bridge by John Cali

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Yesterday morning another one of our furry family crossed over to the far side of the Rainbow Bridge—that place where we will all meet again some day.

Here are some of Spirit’s comforting words to soothe us in those times when our loved ones cross over:

  • Your “dead” animals often return to visit you. (As do your human loved ones.)
  • They often have a desire, from beyond the grave, to help you and to continue loving you.
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Christmas Truces and Other Ironies of War by John Cali

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US B17 Bomber  (left) and German BF109 Fighter (right)

As a former commercial pilot, I had lots of exciting adventures (and a few brushes with death)—some of which I’ve talked about in these posts over the years.

But I never had an experience like that of Lieutenants Charlie Brown and Fritz Stigler, both World War 2 pilots. They met on December 20, 1943, 5 days before Christmas, in skies over Germany.

Charlie was a US bomber pilot returning to England after an attack on Germany.Read more

Do You Struggle With the Holidays? by John Cali

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David O. Selznick, the legendary Hollywood filmmaker, once said “I’m so depressed. Christmas is the worst of all. Holidays are terrible, worse than Sundays. I get melancholia.”

Some of my family and friends struggle with the holidays, particularly the winter holidays. (Or summer, if you’re in the southern hemisphere.) Like Scrooge and Selznick, they dread to see them coming each year—whether it be Christmas, Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, Boxing Day, etc. etc.

Aren’t we missing the whole point of the holiday season?Read more

Transformation vs. Transmutation by Essence Ka tha’ras

 

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It may seem a small difference between Transforming self and Transmuting self, but the truth is there is a vast difference between these two acts.

Transformation is to alter or change yourself in a manner that in comparison to Transmuting yourself is only surface deep. In transforming yourself there is a change in appearance, a revolution and alteration of thoughts, emotions, deeds and actions, and often these changes are large and dramatic as seen by self and others.Read more

The Certainty of Uncertainty by John Cali and Spirit

Did you ever wish you could know what the future holds? I sure did—I spent most of my younger years planning every detail of my life, present and future. How deeply I yearned for certainty, for that sure knowing everything would turn out exactly as I wanted.

Talk about an exercise in futility! I finally learned to embrace not knowing what the future held—to embrace the certainty of uncertainty.

All we have is the present moment. That much we can know with certainty.Read more

The Oak Tree by Hans Brockhuis

 


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It is gorgeous weather. Not too hot, not too cold and practically no wind. I am sitting on a bench in the park. This is not just a bench. It is located on my favorite spot, under a beautiful aged oak tree. A lark shrills his joy about the summer. The trees around me radiate and tell me they are healthy and are being taken care of very well by the rain, which is falling regularly, and by the plentiful sunshine.Read more

How To Have a Healthy Body All Your Life by John Cali and Spirit

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With the holidays upon us again, our thoughts turn to celebrations. And celebrations sometimes lead to overindulgence. Overindulgence, in turn, leads to thoughts of how we can create healthier bodies.

Here are a few tips from Spirit.

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  • Love your body unconditionally—exactly as it is right here and right now. It is part of you, your spirit. You chose it—now cherish it for the gift it is.
  • Your body needs quiet time—meditate regularly. It doesn’t have to be a long time.
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Nelson Mandela 1918-2013 by John Cali

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One of my all-time greatest heroes is Nelson Mandela. He showed us the impossible is possible if we never give up.

Here are a few of my favorite quotes from this great man:

  • It always seems impossible until its done.
  • Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.
  • I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
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The Qualities of a Saint by Jane Ritson

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After the devastation of the hurricane named after St Jude I decided to do a little research on what qualities make a saint.

Initially it was a term of greeting for those in Jesus’ inner circle, otherwise known as his disciples.  After this it was used for people who suffered through following their faith.  Saint-hood is associated with those who devote their life to their beliefs, often entering a monastery or religious order.  Some lived alone, away from the pressures of society. Read more

Gratitude Will Transform Your Life Forever by John Cali and Spirit

 

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In the USA we celebrate Thanksgiving Day the 4th Thursday of every November. I’ve always loved Thanksgiving, and all the holidays. But when I was younger I thought of Thanksgiving mostly as a yearly excuse for overindulging in food, drink, and parties.

It wasn’t until I was much older that I began to understand and appreciate the true meaning of the day. Its name says it all—thanks-giving.

Now, at this time of my life, I make every day Thanksgiving.Read more

Are You a Student or a Teacher? by John Cali and Spirit

 

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Many years ago one of the first spiritual books I ever read was Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach, the legendary pilot and author.

In that book is one of my favorite quotations: “We teach best what we most need to learn.”

When I read that I had to stop and think about it. After all, I’d been a teacher for years. But I’d never thought of myself as a teacher and a student.Read more

Thirteen Mountaintops by Hans Brockhuis

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Sailing among the humid eastern winds I am soaring through the skies, looking proudly and calmly down upon the green valley where I am able to recognize the fields and the pastures. Higher up are the woods, the rocks, the cliffs and the many mountain streams who seek their way down towards a broad and calm receiving sea. Above all I am aware of the embracing shield of 13 mighty snow-capped mountaintops. In their full majestic splendor, with their snowy flanks, they are rising up, high into the clear blue skies, their roots anchored deep within Mother Earth.Read more

Plane Crashes and Dead Pilots by John Cali

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Even though it was many years ago, I clearly remember the night of December 29, 1972. That was the night Eastern Airlines Flight 401 crashed into the Florida Everglades.

Of the 176 people aboard the Lockheed L-1011, 101 died, including Captain Robert Loft, First Officer Albert Stockstill, and Second Officer Donald Repo. It was pretty remarkable so many survived such a horrendous crash.

I remember the crash so clearly because I was a commercial pilot at the time.Read more

Information About “Twin Flames” by Essence Ka tha’ras

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We are speaking of “Reality” as it exists from the 7th Dimension here.)

There is so much information, ancient and current, about the concept of Twin Flames and how to find them, what they are, etc.

I want to share what the Q4 have shared with me about this concept of “Twin Flames” and finding that one special person in physical form we believe is the other half of the whole we perceive our self to be.

By sharing this information I am in no way implying that what is the current accepted truth of a “Twin Flame” is not Truth.… Read more

Trapped On Top of the World by John Cali and Spirit

Beartooth Pass on the Wyoming-Montana border

As I look out my bedroom window to the northwest, I can see the Absaroka-Beartooth Wilderness, one of the most rugged, remote places on the planet.

Those of you in my generation probably remember CBS News reporter Charles Kuralt. He hosted a popular television series, “On the Road,” as part The CBS Evening News with Walter Cronkite.“On the Road” lasted over 20 years.

Kuralt once traveled into the Absaroka-Beartooth Wilderness along the Beartooth Highway.Read more

A Model for Global Oneness? by Ian Barnfield

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Yes. Yes, I believe we are getting closer to global oneness, and accelerating. Not that it’s necessarily going to be a smooth ride for everyone – there are those who are in great resistance to this idea, and they’re likely to make things pretty rough for themselves and those around them, but that needn’t be you.

You can surround yourself with like-minded people who are heading the same way – towards peace, harmony, joy and ease. And if those people aren’t around you physically yet then there’s the internet.… Read more

There Are No Strangers by John Cali and Spirit

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I’ve spoken before about Spirit using my challenges as “raw material” for their messages. Although this one particularly unpleasant challenge happened many years ago, I still vividly remember it.

One Saturday afternoon I locked myself out of my house. So I pried open a window and got in that way. The next-door neighbor saw me and called the police.

Several minutes later two police cars pulled up at my house—I had to prove to them I lived in the house.Read more

When You Love Yourself Your Problems Are Solved by John Cali

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My spirit guides often talk about love, including self-love. They say animals are among our best teachers in learning to love, especially to love ourselves. All love starts with ourselves. In today’s world we seeing an epidemic of self-hatred—the source of virtually all this planet’s woes.

As Louise Hay says, “Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the keys to positive changes….When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.”

I grew up with some pretty dysfunctional people, some in my family and others among my friends.Read more

11 Reasons You May Not Be As Happy As You Want To Be by John Cali and Spirit

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One of the most common complaints Spirit and I hear from folks is they don’t know how to be happy unless certain conditions are met. Conditions that often have nothing to do with them, and which are beyond their control.

Sound familiar? That was the way I lived my life for many years—till I finally woke up.

Here are some of Spirit’s thoughts.

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As John said, we hear lots of excuses why people think they cannot be happy.Read more